Girlfriend doesn't understand appropriate relationship behaviour.

[SamTheHobit]

Brilliant. So she displays disrespectful behaviour and then makes you feel like a chump for calling her on it.
She slowly instills in you, that her behaviour is 'innocent' and that it's 'you' who have the problem.
Bit by bit, piece by piece she gets you to start questioning yourself. This is the beginning of the end.
I'll probably get flamed for saying this, but to me, guys like you deserve to be cuckholded and cheated on. That sounds harsh but let me explain:
- You start out smart, involved, engaged and switched on in your relationship.
- These seemingly minor interactions she does, start to erode you and erode your self esteem and self worth.
- You start to question the relationship. You come on here for advice.
- You can't be sure how else she behaves when you're not around.
- You tolerate it and qualify her as a non cheater to placate the situation.
- She dominates you and lowers your worth in her eyes.

That's when a lot of guys will see this, see you as weak and make a move on 'your' girl.

If a woman I knew sat on a guys lap and that guy had a hard on, I would take strict and quick action.

Advise her that you will no longer tolerate any transgressions for her, WHATSOEVER, set strict boundaries and walk away if she does wrong, OR

get a new shiny beta status that she can stamp on your forehead.
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Agreed with everything you've said here.

Although sometime men can be blind to these disgusting and disrespectful behavior.

Hopefully OP get's his head on straight.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

Agreed with everything you've said here.

Although sometime men can be blind to these disgusting and disrespectful behavior.

Hopefully OP get's his head on straight.

That's true, sometimes one can be blind. But after OP has had several sage replies to his post, there is now zero excuse for him not to take appropriate action. However the inner beta can always prevent a proper course being plotted.

I have noticed that if I take a stance and discuss but advise a woman on what will be happening, the frame is set and usually adhered to.
A woman's main requirement from a man is to feel desired. Not loved. Take away your attention and desire and she will not like it.

 

[Reykhel]

"Girlfriend doesn't understand appropriate relationship behaviour"

this statement is screaming victim mentality.

Let me reframe it for you:

"Boyfriend doesn't understand how to set boundaries"

that statement is screaming responsability mentality

With a victim menatlity things happen to you....outside circumstances circumnavigate your very
existence engulfing you in flames of injustice and outrageously unfair happenings. You know rage. You know frustration. Things just seem out of your control. You're falling.

With a responsability mentality your life experience is firmly in your grasp; your control. You feel as if you are controlling circumstances and you can see how every decision you have ever fvcking made has led you to...here. You feel powerful, you feel strong....you feel....in control.

Work on you.

 

[Lozboss]

OP- Next her YESTERDAY!

God- I would have nexted her after incident 1. She wouldn't have made it past 3 months.

Grow a pair. If you don't deserve respect then you won't be given any by women.