"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Girlfriend asks: Do you think she's hot?

damnsam

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What would be the best way to handle or respond to a test question from a girlfriend? Like we were at the mall and we both notice a very hot woman and she asks me do you think she is hot?

1) Honestly say yes she is attractive
2) Answer in a joking way like: Hmm she was hot but I think she had an adams apple, or damn hell yea she was so hot I jizzed in my pants
3) Passively pretend like you didn't really notice...
4) Lie - and say something like she's attractive but I think you're much more hotter

Any other thoughts ways to handle questions like these?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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bigneil

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Of course you should tell her the truth. You want her to know what you consider beautiful, especially if she asks. Then she will emulate that look.

Just don't let her catch you with a wandering eye - that will hurt her feelings.

If you are constantly seeing women who are much more attractive than your woman, you probably need a new woman.
 

BigSmooth

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Take it as an opportunity for a joke and run with it.

When she asks you that, pretend to eye and check out the girl intensely and say crud like "oh man...look at the angle of her butt... I'm sorry to have to tell you this but I think we should start seeing other people..."

If she isn't a psycho girlfriend and y'all have a good relationship, she'll know you're joking and reply with a fake "stern" comment such as "wow stop that right now".

Then you can just say, "okay fine...but let me take one more glance."


This has actually happened before. If you consider it not a big deal and act accordingly, it defuses the situation pretty easily.
 

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When I go out I look at people not only women. I check men for their style because I may see a new look I want to add to mine. And yeah boobies. So I don't let a woman tell me i'm checking out girls. I tell her i'm people watching. So if she asks me if I think a girl is hot, i'll first of all say who? So it's not obvious were not all looking at the hottest girl in the area. Then if she really is hot i'll agree and ask her why? I'll make sure to let her know she was looking at her too, obviously. I always make sure to create a distinction between looking at someone and checking them out when this topic arises. You have to diffuse this crap early, girls can get a little obsessive when it comes to this.
 

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we both notice a very hot woman and she asks me do you think she is hot?

Be honest. If she is obviously hot, then say so. But everybody has flaws, physical or otherwise. Look for one you can see, and if you can't, then infer one, and use it to qualify your statement.

"Yeah, she's hot." (Then look closely for just a second to notice a flaw.) "But she walks like a horse in those heels."

Everyone has flaws; it just takes a while to see them. I once told my girlfriend that a waitress who walked by us was very pretty. She didn't ask; I brought it up. It was true, she was. Then we watched her carry a tray of dirty plates back into the kitchen, set it down, and proceed to cram all of the uneaten sushi into her mouth and wolf it down. She looked like Cookie Monster eating cookies. Suddenly, she didn't look so pretty any more.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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