"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl with bf gave me her number

grimsavage

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So there's this girl who I had ceramics class with this school year I moved tables half way thru the year because I thought the girl she sat next to was pretty but I later realized that she really had no interest in me so I didn't try to get with her. But her friend we'll call her J has a boyfriend and has for the past year or so so I never really tried anything just being nice and myself when I'd be in class. Today was the last day of school for us senior year and her friend that I first moved to the table for wasnt there so it was just me n J so we chatted up a bit. Me asking J questions about what her college (she's going to ucf) and she was talking about her wantin to join in A sorority and how shed he partying alot. I ask what she was gonna do about her bf because he goes to the community college here and she basically said she might not stay with him when she goes to ucf because of I forget even tho he's gonna try and get transferred over there for the spring semester. A lil bit after this convo J wrote in my notebook her number and J told me to hit her up.

Now today is may 14 she leaves to Orlando on June 20th i figure after that whole situation shes trying to do something with me, hopefully sex i mean I'm prob never gonna see her again after the 20th. How can I set it up that I get to have sex with her I plan on calling her next week to set a date for us to "hang out" now I don't have a car but she knows this and she has a car. Should I suggest what we do or what? I want it to be just me & her but if she wants to invite a friend I guess I'd have to also. Should I suggest drinking or smoking weed I know she's into both I'd rather get drunk tho. Help me out guys I'm still 18 and a virgin and I'm really trying to get this to work.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TheException

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hopefully sex

Already sounding like a guy asking a genie for a wish.

I plan on calling her next week to set a date for us to "hang out"

Dont call. Your my age and dude i never call. Its becoming extinct. Text her. Have your texted her yet since getting the phone number?

Help me out guys I'm still 18 and a virgin and I'm really trying to get this to work.

Nothing wrong with being a virgin. Lots wrong with "really trying to get this to work". Easy killer, or your gonna come off as desperate and a chump.
 

grimsavage

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TheException said:
hopefully sex

Already sounding like a guy asking a genie for a wish.

I plan on calling her next week to set a date for us to "hang out"

Dont call. Your my age and dude i never call. Its becoming extinct. Text her. Have your texted her yet since getting the phone number?
I already thought in my head that I shouldn't contact her at all till next week and I've never heard of texting being better than calling
 

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Women under age of 25 - I ask them out through text
Over 25 - I ask them out through phone

I also ask both out in person if I can because it's easier to read body language.

If she's interested in hanging out with you it will not matter.
 
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