Girl will not leave me alone!!

[Inc. ©]

Ok, I am new in this town and didn't know anyone so I meet this UG off the internet. I just wanted someone to hang out with occassionally and talk with. So we hung out last weekend and it was pretty good. We got along, but I'm not interested at all!

Now, she calls me and IMs me CONSTANTLY! She always wants to do stuff. I can't keep making excuses. She'll want to eat dinner with me or go with me to do laundry or go to the gym. I can't be like, "oh I'm not eating today." It's INSANE! She puts me on the spot like, "I want to see this movie with YOU. Will you see it with me?"

If I say something like "oh, I'm busy now and wanted to watch this game," she'll say like, "oh, I'll watch it with you." Or, "well, after that, call me."

This girl is RELENTLESS. I don't want to burn all bridges here b/c like I said I don't really have friends here. Unfortunately the few friends of her I have met are weird and ugly, but there are some others that I haven't met yet. How can I get her to stop harassing me?

Either that, or I will have to tell her to lose 40 lbs., get a tan, and clear her skin up, and get a new hairstyle, and get rid of her loser friends.

 

[shaken_not_stirred]

hahaha. now you know what its like when an AFC hounds a HB again and again. what a turnoff.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Originally posted by Inc. ©
Either that, or I will have to tell her to lose 40 lbs., get a tan, and clear her skin up, and get a new hairstyle, and get rid of her loser friends.

That's kinda too much to ask bro. Seems like maybe she's got some issues of her own, if you have the time and don't mind company, maybe she can hang out. But make it clear you don't see anything romantically with her so she knows the real deal.

 

[PeoplesChamp]

Dude, come on! Why in the fvck would you want to be friends with a chick like this? From the way things sound, this girl has absolutely no positive qualities. Just because you are new somewhere doesn't mean you should lower your standards out of boredom. If you want a chickensh!t way out just say "look you're a nice girl (lie) but I think I gave you the wrong impression. I still have a girlfriend back in...(insert locale)." If she says that's fine I want to be your friend blah blah...Say well that's cool but I've got a new job and I am working 40+ hours a week now. Don't call me I'll call you.'

Or you could grow a pair and be truthful with her...I prefer the latter...

 

[JonJack]

What is it that you want anyway man? Do you want her as a friend to hang out with? Do you want her so that she can introduce more people to you?

C'mon man. You seem like you're relying too much on others. What the hell are you doing relying on her to meet new people for?

If you hate her harassing you, then stop talking to her and don't hang out with her. If you want to meet other people, do it yourself. Don't freakin use someone you obviously dislike to do it for you. That's really low.

 

[HalfAddict]

what about her friends man!

UB's always have some hot bird they hang out with!

 

[flexion_]

Just find some new friends.

 

[JonJack]

Originally posted by HalfAddict
what about her friends man!

UB's always have some hot bird they hang out with!

I suppose if you're perfectly alright with using someone you clearly dislike to get to her friends, it's fine. I just personally find it to be a lousy trait.

 

[griffon65]

1. ignore her phone calls and IM's

OR

2. Just be honest and let her know that shes smothering you

OR

3. Keep making excuses. Tell her you have a GF now or w/e.