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Senior Don Juan
Here's the story about my last Saturday night.
A girl and I make plans to hangout with her and a couple of her friends. When I get there to pick her up, I find out that we're actually going to be babysitting her girlfriend and a guy that wants to date her. Her friend doesn't want to be alone with that guy even though she accepted a date, she just wants to be friends with him.
So at this point I'm visibly upset that she didn't tell me this part ahead of time and she keeps asking me if I'm okay with it etc. I didn't make a big deal but you could definitely tell from my demeanor that I wasn't excited. I tell her, "we're already here, you didn't give me a choice."
We pick up this scumbag who immediately starts kino with an uninterested chic in the back of my car. He starts off cool, but then eventually talks a bit of **** to me, which I brush off. The girl continues playing uninterested.
Another surprise for me: The dude ends up taking us four to his friend's place to party and then meet up with some group of idiots. I go along, we get to a bar, can't find his friends, head out to another place I know. We drink, I tell her to leave the two alone so they can talk, etc. so they are a bit behind us, while we're sitting at the bar talking. She starts talking about some ****ty problems of her's so I apparently said, "I don't care about your problems," which I don't even remember saying. She gets upset, tells me to not touch her, walks out the bar for a cigarette. I tell the other two that she ran out for a cig, I'll be back.
****ing ***** smokes a lot and I hate it because she is going to end up ****ing UGLY.
anyway, back to the point, she keeps acting upset with me when I should be the one that should be pissed. I tell her she brought me to baby sit her friends, she says she didn't know this would happen, and keeps trying to focus on how I don't care about her problems.
The other two walk out, we decide to walk to a club, get in there, she is acting upset still. We go to the dance floor, STILL UPSET. So I show the group around and then DITCH IT!
Let the three do their thing, I'll do mine.
I end up dancing with a HOT girl, and then making out with her, which she somehow manages to SEE ME!!! hahahaha We danced and walked over to the girl's bathroom entrance because she wanted to use the bathroom. We make out a bit right outside and I see her walking next to me and enter the bathroom!!! haha,
The girl I was dancing with follows her into the bathroom, then 10 ****ing minutes later both of them come out acting like they are friends.... I'm thinking what the **** happened in there??? Any idea?
I play it cool, its time to leave the club. The four of us who initially walked in together leave together. At this point the girl who was on the date with the other guy is more interested in me and starts talking to me along the way! She eventually tells me she doesn't find the other guy attractive because he is shorter than her. I'm a couple inches taller than this girl.
The girl who was upset with me was the one acting as GPS to drop off other two when instead she could have easily dropped herself off before the guy so she wouldn't have to talk to me at the end of the night. Instead she guides to drop off the girl first, then the guy, and then finally her. I pull up to her place, park, and turn to her, "Are you still upset?"
(((I know, I know, ****ing stupid move on my part)))
She starts talking about how I'm one of very few people she trusts and she didn't like that I said, "I don't care about your problems." I told her that I don't even remember saying that. I brought up how she invited me to babysit her friends and she said she really didn't know it would turn out like this. I tell her that she is using me as her emotional tampon because she manages to bring up her problems every time we hang out.
Anyway, so I spend the next 10 minutes listening to the problem she was initially trying to explain to me, I give her some sound advice, and then I say, "alright, I'm going to go now."
The next two days she sounds stuck up, but she says she is sick.
Anyway, I felt like I did awesome at the club and after she got upset, but I sort of gave her some power back at the end of the night.
How should I proceed? I've decided to go no contact until she gets in touch with me. I'm not going to reward disrespect and that's obviously what she did throughout that night.
If she wants me, she needs to contact me and apologize for putting me in that situation, knowingly or unknowingly. Honestly, it would have been fine if I had known in advance what was happening, but she said she didn't know it would be this way.
A girl and I make plans to hangout with her and a couple of her friends. When I get there to pick her up, I find out that we're actually going to be babysitting her girlfriend and a guy that wants to date her. Her friend doesn't want to be alone with that guy even though she accepted a date, she just wants to be friends with him.
So at this point I'm visibly upset that she didn't tell me this part ahead of time and she keeps asking me if I'm okay with it etc. I didn't make a big deal but you could definitely tell from my demeanor that I wasn't excited. I tell her, "we're already here, you didn't give me a choice."
We pick up this scumbag who immediately starts kino with an uninterested chic in the back of my car. He starts off cool, but then eventually talks a bit of **** to me, which I brush off. The girl continues playing uninterested.
Another surprise for me: The dude ends up taking us four to his friend's place to party and then meet up with some group of idiots. I go along, we get to a bar, can't find his friends, head out to another place I know. We drink, I tell her to leave the two alone so they can talk, etc. so they are a bit behind us, while we're sitting at the bar talking. She starts talking about some ****ty problems of her's so I apparently said, "I don't care about your problems," which I don't even remember saying. She gets upset, tells me to not touch her, walks out the bar for a cigarette. I tell the other two that she ran out for a cig, I'll be back.
****ing ***** smokes a lot and I hate it because she is going to end up ****ing UGLY.
anyway, back to the point, she keeps acting upset with me when I should be the one that should be pissed. I tell her she brought me to baby sit her friends, she says she didn't know this would happen, and keeps trying to focus on how I don't care about her problems.
The other two walk out, we decide to walk to a club, get in there, she is acting upset still. We go to the dance floor, STILL UPSET. So I show the group around and then DITCH IT!
Let the three do their thing, I'll do mine.I end up dancing with a HOT girl, and then making out with her, which she somehow manages to SEE ME!!! hahahaha We danced and walked over to the girl's bathroom entrance because she wanted to use the bathroom. We make out a bit right outside and I see her walking next to me and enter the bathroom!!! haha,
The girl I was dancing with follows her into the bathroom, then 10 ****ing minutes later both of them come out acting like they are friends.... I'm thinking what the **** happened in there??? Any idea?
I play it cool, its time to leave the club. The four of us who initially walked in together leave together. At this point the girl who was on the date with the other guy is more interested in me
and starts talking to me along the way! She eventually tells me she doesn't find the other guy attractive because he is shorter than her. I'm a couple inches taller than this girl.The girl who was upset with me was the one acting as GPS to drop off other two when instead she could have easily dropped herself off before the guy so she wouldn't have to talk to me at the end of the night. Instead she guides to drop off the girl first, then the guy, and then finally her. I pull up to her place, park, and turn to her, "Are you still upset?"
(((I know, I know, ****ing stupid move on my part)))
She starts talking about how I'm one of very few people she trusts and she didn't like that I said, "I don't care about your problems." I told her that I don't even remember saying that. I brought up how she invited me to babysit her friends and she said she really didn't know it would turn out like this. I tell her that she is using me as her emotional tampon because she manages to bring up her problems every time we hang out.
Anyway, so I spend the next 10 minutes listening to the problem she was initially trying to explain to me, I give her some sound advice, and then I say, "alright, I'm going to go now."
The next two days she sounds stuck up, but she says she is sick.
Anyway, I felt like I did awesome at the club and after she got upset, but I sort of gave her some power back at the end of the night.
How should I proceed? I've decided to go no contact until she gets in touch with me. I'm not going to reward disrespect and that's obviously what she did throughout that night.
If she wants me, she needs to contact me and apologize for putting me in that situation, knowingly or unknowingly. Honestly, it would have been fine if I had known in advance what was happening, but she said she didn't know it would be this way.
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