Girl suddenly seems to have lost interest, need advice

[Red9908]

Hey guys this is my first post on here so I hope I'm doing it right haha. Basically my issue is that I met this girl on tinder a couple of months back and we have been messaging each other on Whatsapp since April. The reason we didn't meet up during that time is because I had to go back to uni for my exams, so it wasn't possible, however we both discussed that we'd meet up when I came home for summer. For the majority of that time we have been getting on really well and sending texts back and forth all day, and the longest I'd have to wait for a reply would be a couple of hours, with most replies coming within a couple of minutes, and we'd be sending multiple messages to each other every time, so we were having long conversations and she seemed incredibly keen for the entire two month period.

This suddenly changed however last week when literally overnight she went from replying to my messages really quickly and throughout the day to taking hours to reply to the majority of them. Apart from a couple of exceptions she has basically stopped messaging me during the day and only seems to want to message after like 10.30pm which is really frustrating especially considering it's the summer holidays so I don't have much to take my mind off the fact she's taking so long to reply. What's also annoying is that I can see that she goes on Whatsapp lots of times every day without replying and she also has time to tweet so it's not like she can say she's just too busy to reply.

What's confused me even more is that last Friday I decided to ask her if she wanted to go for a meal with me on the 3rd July, thinking that I could find out if she has lost interest, and I was expecting her to say no tbh. However she said yes so now I'm even more confused as to why she's taking so long to reply to my messages. Decided to seek advice after she took 23 hours to reply to the last message I sent on Sunday night, with her only replying last night at 11pm. Just incredibly confused and don't know how I should approach the situation. I kind of want to ignore her but I really like her and also don't want to stop talking to her and end up not meeting her

 

[pyros]

When a woman goes from replying to all your texts pretty quickly to taking hours or days... it is because SHE'S INTERESTED IN ANOTHER GUY, so now you're priority #820.

1 You should stop talking to her cause you'r wasting your time. (what is that **** about exchanging thousands of texts???? wtf???)

2 she may have said yes to your date offer, but I forsee that she's gonna flake or cancel it.

3 Never do this same process with another girl, ie, texting for months just for the 'fun' of it. Jeez...

 

[RangerMIke]

Typical female behavior. This is completely normal. They drift in and out based on their current attraction level and interest they may or may not have for you. Remember it's all about the moment with ladies.

When they back away the best thing you can do is mirror their behavior and amplify.

There are three reasons why she might be backing away:

(1) She is responding to weak behavior on your part.

(2) There is another dude in the picture.

(3) She is testing you.

Most likely is (1) too much texting. I suspect she got bored with all the texting and no face to face. You are also too concerned about when she gets back with you. You really shouldn't give a rat's @ss. You should be seeing other girls.... I really don't have any advice for text game, mostly because I don't think texting is the best way to go. You should talk to woman and go out on dates. If logistics keeps you from a particular woman and it's not possible to see her regularly... then move onto another woman. This likely was never going to work out for you.

Next most likely is (2). A dude that is actually seeing her has a distinct advantage over you. In addition, if he has even weak game, he likely would be doing better then you 3 months of texting.

I really don't think at this point she is testing you, she likely already has an opinion of you that you are somewhat dithering and lack confidence, since it took you so long to ask her out. You likely surprised her when you asked her out, so she said yes. I would not be surprised if she cancelled on you.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

Typical female behavior. This is completely normal. They drift in and out based on their current attraction level and interest they may or may not have for you. Remember it's all about the moment with ladies.

When they back away the best thing you can do is mirror their behavior and amplify.

There are three reasons why she might be backing away:

(1) She is responding to weak behavior on your part.

(2) There is another dude in the picture.

(3) She is testing you.

Most likely is (1) too much texting. I suspect she got bored with all the texting and no face to face. You are also too concerned about when she gets back with you. You really shouldn't give a rat's @ss. You should be seeing other girls.... I really don't have any advice for text game, mostly because I don't think texting is the best way to go. You should talk to woman and go out on dates. If logistics keeps you from a particular woman and it's not possible to see her regularly... then move onto another woman. This likely was never going to work out for you.

Next most likely is (2). A dude that is actually seeing her has a distinct advantage over you. In addition, if he has even weak game, he likely would be doing better then you 3 months of texting.

I really don't think at this point she is testing you, she likely already has an opinion of you that you are somewhat dithering and lack confidence, since it took you so long to ask her out. You likely surprised her when you asked her out, so she said yes. I would not be surprised if she cancelled on you.

She could also have girlfriends, it's not always other guys or even "usually" with "girls". A lot of "girls" have girlfriends they be following up behind, and she might not be paying the texts a lot of attention.

 

[Lozboss]

Bin it mate.

I'm on tinder and if a girl doesn't reply to me I walk away.

Plenty of Women on Tinder and in the world.

One of the top rules of dating women is to focus on those that have HIGH INTEREST LEVEL in you,

If they don't- then just walk into the sunset and don't say a word (don't send butt hurt messages or 'your loss' type ****)

 

[Red9908]

Typical female behavior. This is completely normal. They drift in and out based on their current attraction level and interest they may or may not have for you. Remember it's all about the moment with ladies.

When they back away the best thing you can do is mirror their behavior and amplify.

There are three reasons why she might be backing away:

(1) She is responding to weak behavior on your part.

(2) There is another dude in the picture.

(3) She is testing you.

Most likely is (1) too much texting. I suspect she got bored with all the texting and no face to face. You are also too concerned about when she gets back with you. You really shouldn't give a rat's @ss. You should be seeing other girls.... I really don't have any advice for text game, mostly because I don't think texting is the best way to go. You should talk to woman and go out on dates. If logistics keeps you from a particular woman and it's not possible to see her regularly... then move onto another woman. This likely was never going to work out for you.

Next most likely is (2). A dude that is actually seeing her has a distinct advantage over you. In addition, if he has even weak game, he likely would be doing better then you 3 months of texting.

I really don't think at this point she is testing you, she likely already has an opinion of you that you are somewhat dithering and lack confidence, since it took you so long to ask her out. You likely surprised her when you asked her out, so she said yes. I would not be surprised if she cancelled on you.

The thing is it didn't take me long to ask her out. I didn't make it clear in my original post but i had asked her to go for a meal with me right when we started messaging, but the timing didn't work at that time because she had exams, and then i had to go back to university in another city for a few weeks to do my exams. We'd even chatted about the meal more times whilst i was back at uni and she seemed keen. Me asking last week was just to give the meal an actual date which i hadn't done until that point.

 

[bigneil]

Over time, your market value to her will become evident by the number of times per week she initiates. She should initiate at least once a week on average, and reply to your initiated messages eagerly. Then, it's perfectly ok for you to go 3-4 weeks without any contact. But she will initiate at some point. You can once in a while but it has to mostly be driven by her. If she keeps coming back, off and on for a whole year, it suggests you are one of her best catches. That is what builds confidence. If girls in 3 states who you haven't seen for months are writing to say they miss you, you can be confident are one of the better bachelors. Someone will always steal her eye for a moment, but you will outlast them.

 

[Red9908]

Another thing is that when she eventually does reply and we start chatting she does seem keen and eager and replies to my messages quickly for a few hours. But then the next day the process of her not replying to my last message until around 10pm is repeated.

 

[pyros]

it seems you dont listen.

You asked her out but she had examns? ohhh what a pity....for her.

See this, if she wanted to see you she would make it easy for you, but she doesnt

Why waste time with a girl that is not into you? yeah she likes to chat, so what? just because she's bored and you give her some conversation doesnt mean she's gonna svck your c-ock.

SHe has better things to do than meeting you, no offense.
Go meet other women instead of wasting your time and obssessing over this one.

 

[Red9908]

it seems you dont listen.

You asked her out but she had examns? ohhh what a pity....for her.

See this, if she wanted to see you she would make it easy for you, but she doesnt

Why waste time with a girl that is not into you? yeah she likes to chat, so what? just because she's bored and you give her some conversation doesnt mean she's gonna svck your c-ock.

SHe has better things to do than meeting you, no offense.
Go meet other women instead of wasting your time and obssessing over this one.

Thats not what happened though, she didn't say that she couldn't meet up with me because she had exams. What i was trying to say is that i also had exams at university, in another city, at that time. So i wouldn't have been able to go on a date with her at that particular moment in time, but we both agreed that we wanted to meet up when i was back home. She even brought up the meal as little as 10 days ago but in the time that has passed she's suddenly stopped messaging me as much.

 

[Lozboss]

Just ditch her, she's not interested.

That's hard to hear but believe me you're better focussing on other tail.

 

[mikey2012]

When she loses interest...so do I....because I got ten in line waiting to hit me up.

 

[nismo-4]

Your princess is in another castle. Too much texting, not enough meeting. Since she's highly likely seeing another guy or trying to nab that mam she sees as better than you, move on to someone who is actually interested in you.

Case closed.

 

[Trump]

What's confused me even more is that last Friday I decided to ask her if she wanted to go for a meal with me on the 3rd July, thinking that I could find out if she has lost interest, and I was expecting her to say no tbh. However she said yes so now I'm even more confused as to why she's taking so long to reply to my messages. Decided to seek advice after she took 23 hours to reply to the last message I sent on Sunday night, with her only replying last night at 11pm. Just incredibly confused and don't know how I should approach the situation. I kind of want to ignore her but I really like her and also don't want to stop talking to her and end up not meeting her

Bro this much effort and confusion over a girl you are not sleeping with? What would you do if she kissed you once or twice and then stopped replying?

You shouldn't be putting so much energy into a girl you haven't had sex with. You ask her out once, maybe twice, and then she's out. Anything more than asking out twice and she is laughing with her girlfriends at you and doesn't take you seriously. :box:

 

[Infern0]

Way too much texting man, you dont be texting a girl for months on end without meeting, it's suicide.

I don't care what the excuse is, why would you do that?

I guarentee what's happened in this situation is you've been thinking "well when we can eventually see each other it'll be all good" and probably put your life on hold to wait for this meeting

In the meantime she's thought "well i cant see him until whatever time, but if nobody else comes along in that time, he's ok"

Guess what, someone else came along.

I'm not going to explain text game, because it's basic but you've made countless mistakes and have no fundamentals,

Fundamentals, fundamentals, fundamentals.

https://www.youtube.com/user/coachcoreywayne

https://bookofpook.neocities.org/

If you'd spent the last 2 months on those two pages, you wouldn't even be here asking what you did wrong, you'd KNOW

I recommend you invest some time there now

 

[The_411]

Look you put way too much effort in ... Make it short and sweet. Anytime you are chatting you are already in a no fly zone. Get a number call/text set up a date fast. Don't try to overplay your hand. Stop wasting time with the wrong women and enjoy the idea of meeting women to help determine what you want and need from a partner.