"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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Girl suddenly looking down while you cross paths..low IL or what?

sharpshooter

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I've always wondered this. Let's say you're walking towards a chick and she's walking your way. Now when you were 12 feet away she was checking you out, but as soon as you get within a few feet she suddenly looks down. Usually i'm in my own zone and don't really give a ****, so i'm just minding my own business.

So what does the sudden look down mean. Intimidated? Low IL? High IL? Or am I thinking too much.

keep in mind i'm not talking about approaches, just when you're walking by each other in any type of situation.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by sharpshooter
I've always wondered this. Let's say you're walking towards a chick and she's walking your way. Now when you were 12 feet away she was checking you out, but as soon as you get within a few feet she suddenly looks down. Usually i'm in my own zone and don't really give a ****, so i'm just minding my own business.

So what does the sudden look down mean. Intimidated? Low IL? High IL? Or am I thinking too much.

keep in mind i'm not talking about approaches, just when you're walking by each other in any type of situation.
One thing I can say for sure is that there is an IL. Low or high depends on the girl, really. She is just waiting to see if you will say hi.
 

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Originally posted by maphive
If she showed interest then looked down when she got near you it was more likely low self esteem.
If she looks down in general, or if anyone looks down, its low self esteem. Most of the time subconcious.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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sharpshooter

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****, i was walking like a god, but wasn't smiling

i guess that can be pretty intimidating
 

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Isnt that one of the "rules" of eye contact? If a female human being looks down/glances at you over again = interested, if she looks in another direction = not interested, was just checking u out?

At least Ive read that a couple of times. Maybe they look down cause on the one hand they are intimdated but on the other hand females like "strong men" blabla get what i mean? Anyways Ive definetly read that a woman looking down is a positive sign.
 

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If you looked happy, it could of been a decent IL or low self esteem. If you were looking a bit po'd I'd say that maybe she was intimidated. In my present state of thinking, I'm thinking that it was probably low self esteem.
 

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Man that happens to me all of the time. While i walk on campus so many girls look at you from far away then whey you get close they will look away. Girls aren't agressive like that most won't stare at you all the way through like a psycho. You gotta do the approach. Same thing happens at crowded bars too. It is almost as if they are checking you out but don't want you to know that they are looking at you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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