Girl started losing interest the moment I showed a bit of interest in her

[RustleYourJimmies]

Classic right?

Well the thing is, this girl has been extremely interesting in me for the longest and the moment I show a small amount of interest back it seemed to disappear. I know for a FACT she wants to date me, shouldnt my interest in dating her not make her interest fade away? After all, its what she ultimately wanted from me.

How do I get this interest back? Ignore her? Im always a challenge, I make her laugh, she talks about kissing me, etc.

 

[Solomon]

Classic right?

Well the thing is, this girl has been extremely interesting in me for the longest and the moment I show a small amount of interest back it seemed to disappear. I know for a FACT she wants to date me, shouldnt my interest in dating her not make her interest fade away? After all, its what she ultimately wanted from me.

How do I get this interest back? Ignore her? Im always a challenge, I make her laugh, she talks about kissing me, etc.

brb using my imgiantion OP since there no pics

negging in

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(not srs)

p.s. to answer your quesiton fall back, spin plates you know the drill brah

 

[RustleYourJimmies]

[fuuuuuaaaaarrrrrrk brah she's special though no homo

I'm seeing another girl but I don't really like her, I'm tryna get into a relationship with this one cause of dat wife mafetial

 

[youngmack]

Thats it bruh. Girl love the idea of chasing a guy and getting him to commit. In that comes the idea of it being "fun" and that you're a challenge. Once you slip once and don't continue being a challenge the fun is no more and bam she does a 180.

 

[PrettyBoyA]

You actually never need to let a girl know you even like her back for you to date her.

I dated a girl for 4 months without ever telling her that I liked her. She'd ask the question "do you even like me?" and I'd just play around it by making a joke of it and changing the topic. She just loved the chase and I gave her one.

 

[Night-hawk]

^ True stuff right there.

On another note. Tha fvck do you care about this girl? How do you get interest back? She already did a 180 on you just because you showed a bit of interes backt to her, and now YOU want to continue figuring out how to better go after her. Are you nuts?

If a girl is interested in dating you you don't need to prove your interest to her. If you do show interest (because you are a human being...believe it or not some girls are too and actually like a guy who shows interest, usually in the form of making her laugh and pleasing her physically as both her feelings and body get a kick outta ya).

You need to be sayin f'vck her another weed outta my flower patch.

Tell yourself you are not going to chase a ***** again, nor will you entertain thoughts of fancy over girls who make you question if you are enough for her.

Funny how once you know you are more interesting than most girls, their 'rejections' to you take on new forms of who-gives-a-fvckitude.

 

[Greasy Pig]

My last one-itis pulled this shyt and actually admitted it.

She said she initially started fvcking me because I was a challenge.

She then did a complete 180 almost overnight. Insane and very distressing.

Chicks like this aren't worth spending time dwelling on.

Just ignore her and see if she reaches out. If she reaches out, appear mysterious and not to keen to catch up.
Even if you don't have options, you have to give her the impression you do.

 

[Night-hawk]

For our sake as guys, its best to be a challenge. We've all learned hard lessons from girls we thought were totally into us.

If it was curiosity that killed the cat...it was infatuation that killed the lion.

 

[PrettyBoyA]

My last one-itis pulled this shyt and actually admitted it.

She said she initially started fvcking me because I was a challenge.

She then did a complete 180 almost overnight. Insane and very distressing.

Chicks like this aren't worth spending time dwelling on.

Just ignore her and see if she reaches out. If she reaches out, appear mysterious and not to keen to catch up.
Even if you don't have options, you have to give her the impression you do.

It's not just chicks dude, it's guys too. It's you and me and everyone else. It's human nature. We value what is rare and when something comes too easily it's not valued anymore.

You will be (or have already been) in a situation where a girl is totally into you and you're BORED.

Best relationship I ever had a turbulent relationship with this girl who made me feel like I never totally had her. But she never felt like she had me either. You need someone on the same level as you where you're both an equal challenge.

 

[Purefilth]

It's not just chicks dude, it's guys too. It's you and me and everyone else. It's human nature. We value what is rare and when something comes too easily it's not valued anymore.

You will be (or have already been) in a situation where a girl is totally into you and you're BORED.

Best relationship I ever had a turbulent relationship with this girl who made me feel like I never totally had her. But she never felt like she had me either. You need someone on the same level as you where you're both an equal challenge.

this^^

 

[b.l.g.k.]

I don't think all girls are this way. At least I hope not. What if you want to get married one day? I wouldn't be able to trust someone like that.

I think you can and should have other interest besides the girl but I don't know about acting like they never really have you.

 

[Samwild]

I don't think all girls are this way. At least I hope not. What if you want to get married one day? I wouldn't be able to trust someone like that.

I think you can and should have other interest besides the girl but I don't know about acting like they never really have you.

I underlined the only problem with your response. It is this type of mannerism, as the OP described, as to why the divorce rate is SO high coupled with the fact that us men are forced to become slaves to the system through alimony and child support. If you find a women that loves you for you, there is no reason to let her into your pockets and emasculate you through a court order. Learning to judge women by their actions and not their words should be plenty of reason to NOT marry in the context of signing a certificate at the court house. It's become the worst business deal men can ever enter into these days. If the women you are with become mad at your for thinking edgewise, this tells you a lot about her and then the decision is up to you to keep her in your life or not. If she wants legal marriage with you bad enough she would go and become active to not only raise awareness, but change our biased legal system to become equal to both sexes.
Women have been damn better at protecting their self interest since the dawn of man, it is about time we start looking out for us and flip the game on them.

 

[st_99]

Classic right?

Well the thing is, this girl has been extremely interesting in me for the longest and the moment I show a small amount of interest back it seemed to disappear. I know for a FACT she wants to date me, shouldnt my interest in dating her not make her interest fade away? After all, its what she ultimately wanted from me.

How do I get this interest back? Ignore her? Im always a challenge, I make her laugh, she talks about kissing me, etc.

imo girls show interest in phases like, general interest, i think he's cute interest, want to go out on date interest, want to kiss interest, want to fvck interest, want to stay with and have relationship interest...

and its true that a girl could be interested in you but they can let go before advancing to the next phase because well... you just didnt do it for them for whatever reason. but that doesn't make their initial interest fake, its just you didn't meet the qualifications for the next phase so they moved on.


most guys on the other hand want to go from 0-100 in a second. yeah, she's hot, lets get married.. sounds good. lol.

 

[nismo-4]

Classic right?

Very classic case. The solution is to spin more plates.

Case closed. Get out of my court.

 

[cablecow15]

LOOK AT THE DUDES NAME !

stop feeding him lol

 

[bigneil]

She then did a complete 180 almost overnight. Insane and very distressing.

In reality, the previous date something bad happened - either her friend didn't like you or something else turned her off. Then you went into the next date overconfident while she was already looking for a way out. This is where you needed to get "that gut feeling" and talk to her about it (if it was possible to correct). When you didn't (or it wasn't) she realized you were out of touch and then did a 180.

Carlos Xuma spoke of the same phenomenon. He said "If you don't address the real issue then it will come back at you out of nowhere and you won't have any idea where it came from." That's why you should never believe the reasons she gives for dumping you - they are not the real reasons. Apologizing is bad in and of itself ("I'm sorry I said you were a fat, smelly ho". Gee she feels so much better now). But apologizing for something that wasn't the real reason makes you look incredibly bad.