"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Girl Shows Vulnerability, I Become Attracted

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I felt bad because I got grumpy with some random chick. I think I might have yelled because I was upset about something that was really trivial. She was just the checkout girl. She was calm, but I felt so bad about it afterwards.

So next time I see her, I am SUPER friendly. "How are you doing today?" I say with a big smile. "huh?" "I said how are you today?"

"Oh! I thought you said 'it's you again!'

I start laughing. She had thought she had done something to upset me and I didn't want to see her again. Anyway, she seems really sad, so I keep chatting with her until she smiles.

Anyway, what turned me on is how vulnerable she seemed. She didn't blame me for the incident, but herself instead. Anyway, she's got a big wedding ring she rocks, but I'll still be friendly and flirt with her, cuz I like her!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You boys need to override your instincts to protect women it will lead to "captain save a ho" as it's called here. It is OK to help someone who is drowning etc. BUT, trying to save a woman from trouble of her own making? It is in our nature to ride up on the white horse to save the day,but when you get that idea, shoot your horse,BBQ it,buy some beer and invite your friends over. They will appreciate it more than the woman will and it will cost you less in money and emotions.
 

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sodbuster said:
you get that idea, shoot your horse,BBQ it,buy some beer and invite your friends over. They will appreciate it more than the woman will and it will cost you less in money and emotions.
Omg :crackup: thats awesome haha
 

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sodbuster said:
You boys need to override your instincts to protect women it will lead to "captain save a ho" as it's called here. It is OK to help someone who is drowning etc. BUT, trying to save a woman from trouble of her own making? It is in our nature to ride up on the white horse to save the day,but when you get that idea, shoot your horse,BBQ it,buy some beer and invite your friends over. They will appreciate it more than the woman will and it will cost you less in money and emotions.
Truth!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EH3AECIX_tc

Here's a rap song with good lyrics for any aspiring AFC savior types out there to pay heed to.
 

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sodbuster said:
You boys need to override your instincts to protect women it will lead to "captain save a ho" as it's called here. It is OK to help someone who is drowning etc. BUT, trying to save a woman from trouble of her own making? It is in our nature to ride up on the white horse to save the day,but when you get that idea, shoot your horse,BBQ it,buy some beer and invite your friends over. They will appreciate it more than the woman will and it will cost you less in money and emotions.
Ha,ha,this is funny...and also true at the same time.

Buy,I'm doling out the reps tonight.

+1 rep.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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sodbuster said:
You boys need to override your instincts to protect women it will lead to "captain save a ho" as it's called here. It is OK to help someone who is drowning etc. BUT, trying to save a woman from trouble of her own making? It is in our nature to ride up on the white horse to save the day,but when you get that idea, shoot your horse,BBQ it,buy some beer and invite your friends over. They will appreciate it more than the woman will and it will cost you less in money and emotions.
Kody raised a very good point and SODBUSTER, everyone was quoting you how can I miss out the fun. LOL.

Good post. Some actually do it on purpose, in fact many of them. So don't fall for it.

Wow and I've never eaten horse meat before, is it good?
 
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