"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Cassify

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well i'm dating a girl right now that in the firsts dates she was very sweet and clingy to me...but suddenly she started to play hard to get like a crazy *****...

i'm trying to be light-hearted , but the situation is pissing me off...what you guys think should i do!?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You need to describe what "hard to get" means in your particular situation.

Depending on what's happening, maybe she's playing hard to get....or maybe she just lost interest. Girls do that.
 

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Kick her to the backburner and spend time with other chicks instead, she'll either wise up or go away.

I don't tolerate chicks playing hard to get with me, I only reward the ones who understand that they have a prize in their sights and shouldn't risk driving him off.
 

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Iceberg said:
You need to describe what "hard to get" means in your particular situation.

Depending on what's happening, maybe she's playing hard to get....or maybe she just lost interest. Girls do that.
well in the first couple dates, she used to talk a lot, be more physical , laugh a lot and stuff like that...now she's waiting for me to iniate the conversation, she is less touchy now but she didn't lost her sense of humor and still is very receptive.
 

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You wouldn't be so worried about this if you're SPINNING PLATES like you're SUPPOSED to.

SPIN PLATES SPIN PLATES, before you fall for this girl. Think of it from an outside perspective.. A DJ knows that he must be mysterious,and challenging to raise a girls interest level. How do you know she isn't using this tactic?

You know what shes doing so you must counter the attack, withdraw, mess with other girls and hit her up for a next date next week. Meanwhile find other girls and go on dates with them.She has options you should too...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Cassify said:
well in the first couple dates, she used to talk a lot, be more physical , laugh a lot and stuff like that...now she's waiting for me to iniate the conversation, she is less touchy now but she didn't lost her sense of humor and still is very receptive.

Like Iceberg said, she could be playing hard to get, or she just lost/or is losing interest.

Have you kissed her or at least tried to kiss her? If not, find a situation and go for it.
 

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Usually when a woman plays hard to get, her interest has dropped.

Making a move to see for sure if she's interested and spinning more plates always is the best thing that is for you.

Case closed.
 

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Getting pissed off isn't going to help you.

Have fun, treat it like the game it is and just make sure you're playing it with other girls too.
 

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Have you fvcked her yet? If you just keep dating without sex, you become a guy who isn't confident in his sexuality. Women aren't attracted to non-sexual men and if you don't fvck her, you'll just end up being her friend.
 
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