"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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jlazz

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Okay I need some advice from the experienced people here. I went to prom with this girl that denied me at first because she was going out w/ her best friend, but she came running back. I took her to prom and we hooked up. But before and through prom I could tell she was playing games and seems like a player herself. I played my own games and played by my rules and we exchanged control back and forth. During prom she was all over me, we hooked up, and I denied her for sex. She kept trying to test me and I kept winning. The next morning after prom, she calls me up and asks to hangout that night. I say ok, but she calls me later after she gets home from work and tells me she's too tired and is going to sleep. I called her today and asked to hangout and she said she wasn't sure what she was doing tonight and would give me a call. She never did...

I decided to stop for a second and move away and think about it. She's been playing games and continues to. On her myspace she changed her relationship status from single to married today...so I think she may be back w/ her best friend. I'm not counting on her calling me tonight, so what I plan on doing is not calling her for 3 days. I'll call her then and see whatsup. I was talking to my friend who's experienced at this and he said I should step away asap before I get one-itis which I already have. He's gonna have a party at his house just for me some I can find some new prospects and take my mind off this one.

Please gimme some insight on what I should do and if what I plan on doing is right. I know I should NEXT her, but I can see her as a possible fk buddy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The-Kid

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Hey whats up mayn...
Im no dj YET but....

Why did you "deny" her sex? that could have been your only shot at that a$$

she was prob hurt & weak from the incident with her "best friend"
you should have just taken full advantage of the situation and what she was offering..... I could be wrong but it would have been harder for her to hook up with her "best friend" again if you banged her.

Pro DJs am i right???

Laterz
 

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She wanted to have sex in the bathroom of the party bus which barely fit 1. I told her to wait for the afterparty. But then she got totally trashed and wouldn't putout in the bathroom of the afterparty...so she was more willing when she was sober.

Now I need some advice on what to do...she obviously was still interested in me if she asked me out the morning right after. But she seems to can't make up her mind..she's all over the place. And I don't want to be desperate and call her again for a few more days because she hasn't called me like she said she would.

BTW...she's not back w/ her best friend...the "married" thing was just to her girlfriend since they are bff'ers.
 

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If there's anything I learned in my experiences, it's that you have to strike when the moment is right. What is your goal with this chick? Relationship? Hook-up? Fvck buddy? In the case of the latter two, you should have, as they say, struck while the iron was hot. Don't let more opportune moments pass by. In fact, forget what I said earlier, you should have gone for it in all three cases. The whole point is to get more pvssy, why reject it?
 

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I know, I kind of regret it, but it wasn't like I was purposely denying her, I told her to wait for the loft. The bathroom barely fit 1 person.

Now I'm trying not to call her for a while, because its been a 4:1 ratio of calling since prom and she's been flakey.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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