Ok so everytime I go to a party (college) this girl is super flirty with me, we dance, talk and connect, and have a great time (when both of us are drunk). This last time I even got her # and she invited me to hang out with her sometime. But when she's sober everything changes. She's super quiet, timid, and every time I say hi she glances at me for a split second says hi and then just walks away. She's also in one of my classes but I can barely conversate with her because she always rushes out of class. It's like nothing ever happened and we act like we barely know each other outside of parties. Do you think she likes me or is she just super friendly in general when she's drunk? Granted she does get talkative with others (not just me) at parties but it always ends up with the two of us hanging out in the party most of the time.. What do you guys think is going on? How should I deal with this situation?
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Drunk girls are drunk girls. If she's a shy person with everyone when she's sober, she might be interested in you but too shy. Does she seem intimidated when you see her sober or does she seem indifferent? If it's intimidated, she might be interested in you, if it's indifferent then I would say there's not much attraction there. You can attempt to build attraction if that's the case, but sounds like an uphill battle.
It's not like nothing happened, nothing has happened. Don't attach value to a number especially from a girl who has been drinking. Have you been texting her? When she rushes out of class as you put it why not walk faster than her and flirt. Also you should have atleast kissed her at the party.
I can't really tell it's just that she's really quiet around me and doesn't say much.IndeedSir said:Drunk girls are drunk girls. If she's a shy person with everyone when she's sober, she might be interested in you but too shy. Does she seem intimidated when you see her sober or does she seem indifferent? If it's intimidated, she might be interested in you, if it's indifferent then I would say there's not much attraction there. You can attempt to build attraction if that's the case, but sounds like an uphill battle.
That's true. I haven't really been texting her since I barely talk to her in person as it is, at least when we're both sober. And the reason I don't walk faster is because I don't want to look desperate chasing after her. She literally darts out of class right when it ends so it's not easy to catch upPoop1337 said:It's not like nothing happened, nothing has happened. Don't attach value to a number especially from a girl who has been drinking. Have you been texting her? When she rushes out of class as you put it why not walk faster than her and flirt. Also you should have atleast kissed her at the party.
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