Girl losing IOI

[Baruch]

I can relate 100% man same situation happening to me, here's my plan give her say a 3-4 days no contact at all, then randomly rock up at her house get her alone and tell her what's up have the talk... after that if shi7 hits the fan you can look back and say at least you tried.

That is the worst advice to just appear at her house.

 

[AfRoSwiss-Disiac]

That is the worst advice to just appear at her house.

I agree you might come off...wait u WILL come off as a stalker

 

[Baruch]

Just an update on this chick.

After she messaged me that Sat night, the next day on Sunday I ended up calling her late at night. I went against every advice that I had in here, I went with my AFC ways.

I called her and pretty much told her in brief "Look, I like you, you know it, I know you ****ing adore me, but put your guards down, I ain't your ex jealous bf, I do not get jealous, if you percieved me that way thats only because I like you and I am tired of fcukin dumb sluts"

Then I said I had to go. She was there in her room with her GF. 30 Minutes later I got a text asking "Do you want me to be your gf or something?"

I replied "I didn't ask a girl to be my gf since 4th grade. If you want to be my gf you need to trust me, I just don't want to lose a good friend"

Next day I talk to her online, she told me she does not want to confide or be with anyone and I said neither do I. Then I had to go. Texted her saying "I just want us be like we are without the drama"

She replied with "I would like that too" and I told her to call me when she gets off work. Next thing you know, she calls me and asks me to meet up.

We meet, had a cup of coffee, talked little about random **** and her drama. Then ended up kissing goodnight.

She was texting me all day yesterday just like she used to for the first month and a half I've known her. Later that night though, I noticed that she a picture of this guy she likes and used to date, but he lives on another continent. I did't get upset. She asked me if I was, I said she ain't my gf and why would I.

So now I am going to go back to my normal self and act indiffernt with this girl again. I am not going to call her and tell her to have lunch with me, or go meet me, it is her turn. I am going to ignore her text that she sent me this lunch, becuase I sense that the IOI level is low regardless, so I am going to make myself scarce and occupy myself with more important things.

 

[zack77766]

Leave her your reputation is ruined. Kinda what AD says: Never go back to a girl you dumped; her "file" on you says you're a loser. DOnt worry there's others.

 

[Baruch]

I don't think I lost my reputation all that much. I've just been quite a jerk to this girl, but made myself readily available, which made her all of the sudden take me for granted.

 

[Baruch]

Here is another update I would like to share....

After my last two posts, I have made myself more scarce, but not completly. I decided to experiment a little bit, for educational purposes.

I started being indifferent with her, I still bust her ball like always did, she giggles and all that crap. I talked to her yesterday, then told her I am walking into a restaurant for lunch and I will talk to her later. She ended up texting me couple of hours later, I didn't reply, I was busy with work. Later that day, I went home, and just chilled all night at home, I haven't done that in a while with having two jobs on my hands. I went to sleep early and at midnight I get a phone call from her, I didn't pick up and went back to sleep.

Today morning, I decided to call her on the way to work to see if she will pick up. Of course she did, with her giggly little voice trying to talk in my foreign language. I talked to her briefly then she asked me to hold becuase she was drying her hair, after about 30 seconds holding, I hung up and went into work.

Chilled at work all day, at the first stages at work. We texted back and forth twice and then it stopped till later I get a text, but did not reply because I was busy, 20 minutes later I get a call, I am still busy can't talk.

Didn't call her all day, till just now, I get another call, she is all excited on the other line that I picked up, asking me how my day is, what am I doing, and I just being my funny self. Then she goes "I sent you so many texts today, like 6 of em"....I told her "I saw one from you, but I was busy". And right there, I see how me doing less of what I used to do with her, intrigues her, making her bring up the subject of how she texts me and I don't reply without actually saying it. Her "need" for me was apperant there on the phone.

I talked to her briefly, she said she was going to her guy friends house from work to straighten his hair, and the thought of her maybe boning him, didn't even cross me, till I actually set down here, and realized that I do not care if she is sleeping with someone else.

I only want her more, when I can't have her readily available, now that I gave her some of (I like you, but I dont want to be with you either) and started being indifferent again like I was being in the beggining stages with her even after I sexed her, she is craving more of me. She calling me more and wondering why I am not texting her back.

I am just going to stay in this mindstate, whatever happends happends.

It feels as if I am gaining control back. But is it really possible to gain control back again from a woman who used to think of me as an *******/jerk/indpendent guy, but still showed her a nice/needy by making yourself less available again?