Girl leaves for holidays overseas...

[Game617]

She went back home for the Holidays. Told me we'll talk by Skype while she's there. Said she'll call me everyday. She get's there and sends an email saying she made it there ok, misses me...then do I have a landline. She won't be in front of the PC much and it's cheaper. If not she says she'll create a google account and call. Get an e-mail Fri it's 12PM there, say's she can't call as everyone is sleeping. She'll call me tomorrow. Next day, e-mail saying she can't call from her cell and she'll try a public phone later Sat night. Never hear from her. Today she says she'll activate google voice and call me today...never hear from her.

I don't mind if she leaves and calls now and then. But she's not a Bimbo and I figure if she wanted to call she would have found a way to do it. I recommended an international calling card. Is it really so hard to make a call from Europe if your want to?

 

[NewAndImproved]

Is it really so hard to make a call from Europe if your want to?

Nope, it's not hard at all. An international card is all it takes. Or a simple internet cafe.

So it seems she doesn't want to.

How long have you been with this girl? More context is needed.

 

[Game617]

She calls, wants to spend the three nights before she leaves with me. Holding hands and kissing me on the way to the airport....(positive signals) She's the one who said I want to call and can't wait to talk to you...

Leaning toward ignoring her e-mail and calls...and when she comes back give her the cold shoulder. Known her a few months.

 

[NewAndImproved]

Hmmm.... I think you have the right idea. I actually read this quickly so I didn't see that she actually LIVES in Europe. In that case, she's definitely aware of how to make an international call and has the resources to do so.

After the first phone call "flake" I actually would've said something like "hey, it's all good. Call if you can if not I'll see you when I get back." and then go ghost. Her continuing to break phone plans and your trying to "reason with her" (get a phone card), is just making you lose more and more value.

Go ghost. It's the holidays anyway.

 

[BadNews]

NewAndImproved is correct. You don't want to just ignore her out of the blue. Simply tell her it isn't a big deal and you guys will catch up sometime when she gets back. Done. This way you're not the ******* that suddenly got all pissed off and ignored her because she couldn't call you (we ALL know that's what will be going through her female head.) Rather you'll be the calm collected guy that didn't get worked up about it, and doesn't seem to mind if he doesn't hear from her for a few weeks - this will get her head spinning!

 

[Game617]

Just before NewAndImproved wrote that I shot out an e-mail saying don't worry about it call me when u can.

Still the f-ng B**** what's so hard with saying "Hey I'm going out with friends, seeing family, call you in a few days"???? No problem.

 

[BadNews]

She is probably feeling pressured to phone you because she said 100 times she was going to. She probably actually HASN'T had time because of the obvious reasons you stated.

Yes the polite thing to do would be to tell you that she is busy and will call when she can yada yada. Some people handle stressful situations differently than others. No she isn't handling it the correct way, and it is probably just a snowball effect.

To be honest I've done the same thing to buddies of mine. I tell them I'll give them a call this weekend, but then I'm just busy and don't have time, or it slips my mind. I then feel bad, and give an excuse and say I'll call them this week or w/e. Happens again, then I'm dreading calling because I feel like a complete a$$hole.

The BEST thing you can do is exactly what you did! So good on ya! It completely takes all the compounding pressure off her, and when she get's the chance she'll call. If not, see where things are at when she gets back There could be other reasons of course, but it doesn't help to jump to quick conclusions.

As easy as it is to be the hard ass and go ghost, or next a girl. Sometimes ACTUALLY being aloof about a situation is the best route. Don't get too worked up about it, and don't think about it too much. Enjoy your holidays buddy...she is!

 

[SeymourCake]

She's too busy banging another guy. Don't feel bad.

 

[Game617]

Respect and Trust isn't given, it's earned. Fk if I care if she is. I mean would she take a 13 hour flight across seas back home and first thing stay with another dude? If the girl is serious and dedicated to me she has to prove it.

What's fked up my dudes, if I didn't fight with her and throw her a** out of my house, she wanted me to go with her. Mentioned loaning me the $$$. So yeah, lets hope she's spending New Years with her mom and keeping her legs closed hahaha.

In the mean time I got three Asian chicks I'm gaming and another FWB. Funny thing I got this chicks number gaming her, and guess who calls me from the train station right after I walk out after lol.