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girl keeps touching me in class

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this girl who sits beside me in class is always "accidentally" touching me. like bumping in to me, leaning back into me, brushing her arm against mine, elbowing me lightly, bumps my foot with her foot under the table, etc. normally i would just view it as accidental but she keeps doing it every class. shes done that ever since i met her. we talk in class a lot, she leans close to me sometimes.
this could all mean nothing, i cant tell. i like analyzing body language but i dont want to overanalyze. i suspect she has bf but im not 100%. her facebook has a pic of her with a dude. plus she is the friendly flirty type with everybody.
is she really this clumsy or is she into me?
 

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It's not your job to determine whether it is accidental or not though. You are clearly interested deep down, so express that outwardly. Touch her back. Corner her after class. Ask her for her number. Shut the situation down quickly one way or the other- that way she's not just playing with you.
 

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i touched her back some today just to mess around. havent got around to cornering her after class. everytime she touches me she smiles and says "sorry". lol
 

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anymore input? she does it every class. i dont see how it can be accidental.
 

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JoeMarron said:
Get the pvssy instead of being one.
well im not doing it on purpose. i would have asked her out today but i dont know what her relationship with this dude is. i dont want to ask then look stupid. but shes over here putting her hands on me.
 

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plus its not really what you would consider flirty touching, its bumping.
 

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well i got her number and she said she would help me study. cant read too much into that tho. shes still touchin me on the arm, so i touched her back. lol when i meet up with her again, im gonna straight up ask her out. if she says no it is what it is.
 

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Just go for it, who cares about the other dude like she hasn't told you that she is in a relationship right? Make some moves on her when she helps you "study".
 

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arrrrggghhh!! she keeps fvckin touchin me. we got in a conversation earlier...the dude in question i suspect is her bf is in my economics class...we were talking about that class and she said oh yeah my friend is in that class. friend? why you refer to bf as "friend'?
shes friendly to everybody so i cant believe shes giving me any special treatment. i think shes just messin with me.
this chick is confounding me. i want to go for it but dont want to look stupid if its really her bf. im gonna have to go for it or cut her off completely.
 

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My god man. Who the hell cares who's her boyfriend. Stop posting on this thread and escalate goddammit! All of your questions will be answered when you make a move.
 

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If she never mentioned him as her bf then either he isn't, or she doesn't want you to know, which means she likes you. Either way, stop being a puss and ask her out already.
 

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arrrrggghhh!! she keeps fvckin touchin me.
Actions over words EVERY.SINGLE.TIME. when you are confused about a woman's intentions.

She keeps touching.... that's a green light. Stop over-analyzing because you are simply looking for an excuse not to take action because you are scared of being rejected.

we were talking about that class and she said oh yeah my friend is in that class. friend? why you refer to bf as "friend'?
Who cares?! She might be doing this for a variety of reasons; just to name a few off the top of my head:

a) she's interested in you and wants to break up with her bf
b) he's not her bf ---- this is all pure speculation on your part based off one FB pic
c) she's casually dating him, not in a committed relationship and can see others

shes friendly to everybody so i cant believe shes giving me any special treatment. i think shes just messin with me.
Pull down your pants, look down and make sure your ballz are still attached to you. Simply put you are SCARED and I'm giving you tough love because until you take ACTION you will never conquer this fear. Getting girls should be fun and not so complicated, your stressing yourself out over nothing.

I'm confusing myself.
Fixed!


i want to go for it but dont want to look stupid if its really her bf. im gonna have to go for it or cut her off completely.
This might open your eyes.

Why will you look stupid? Like explain to me E-X-A-C-T-L-Y why you would look stupid?

She hasn't indicated that she has a bf once to you. You are ASSUMING this based off a FB profile pic and you may or may not be right.

Even if she has a bf, again she never told you, so you will NOT look stupid for going for what you want, you will look like a man.....never a bad thing.

Stop traumatizing yourself and take action.

She touches you, gave you her #, offered to study together = opportunity.

You can either keep over-analyzing and miss your window of opportunity OR you can take action and all your questions will be answered.

With that said, it sounds like your a newbie when it comes to game etc. So keep posting here and make sure you don't say/do something stupid.






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