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Girl keeps busting my balls

Konada

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Just met a girl in uni about 3 weeks ago, had a proper conversation with her last week. I never really had to do much but just play it cool and ask her a couple of questions, lots of smiling and eye contact.

Fast forward to this Monday where we had a group meeting for a project, throughout the meeting she was busting my balls constantly whenever I said something (I noticed because she didn't do this to the rest of the guys in my group), of course I played it cool and ignored/deflected her dumb comments time to time, resulting in some playful banter between us. I plan to ask her out tomorrow to confirm her IL.

Whats your experiences with girls who bust your balls constantly? How is their IL?
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

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Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Never date a chick who is in the same class as you, it is like going out with someone from work. You don't want to be in each others pocket all the time.
 

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Konada said:
Just met a girl in uni about 3 weeks ago, had a proper conversation with her last week. I never really had to do much but just play it cool and ask her a couple of questions, lots of smiling and eye contact.

Fast forward to this Monday where we had a group meeting for a project, throughout the meeting she was busting my balls constantly whenever I said something (I noticed because she didn't do this to the rest of the guys in my group), of course I played it cool and ignored/deflected her dumb comments time to time, resulting in some playful banter between us. I plan to ask her out tomorrow to confirm her IL.

Whats your experiences with girls who bust your balls constantly? How is their IL?
She could be sh*t testing you, to basically see how you react. You did well just ignoring her and deflecting. Remember that a woman wants you to treat her like she's a woman. She's basically assessing your manliness.

But like the other poster said "don't date a girl in class". It's a reasonable thing to say, it depends whether you think this could be LTR material. If you just wanna get inside her watch out because you're going to have to continue to go to class and stuff and if you just use and abuse her its going to get around the entire class, and if this ball-busting is a sign of her being a bit skitzo then you could be in for hell.

But if you're exagerrating and she was simply teasing you and is 'normal' then she was likely just testing you.
 

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Konada said:
Just met a girl in uni about 3 weeks ago, had a proper conversation with her last week. I never really had to do much but just play it cool and ask her a couple of questions, lots of smiling and eye contact.

Fast forward to this Monday where we had a group meeting for a project, throughout the meeting she was busting my balls constantly whenever I said something (I noticed because she didn't do this to the rest of the guys in my group), of course I played it cool and ignored/deflected her dumb comments time to time, resulting in some playful banter between us. I plan to ask her out tomorrow to confirm her IL.

Whats your experiences with girls who bust your balls constantly? How is their IL?
Girl "busting your balls"=I'm being bad by disrespecting you; please put me in my place now.
 

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It could be a "test" to see how you handle certain situations, but I'd say she is interested in you. I wouldnt tease a girl I didnt like... I say go for the number!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Agree to the rest, the teasing is more of a test, just deflect and also play a long and tease her too. Next move I would make would be to push for a number, depending what class your in and how old, i would go for something simple "Go out to sonso for some coffee/drink/whatever and we can talk about some stuff from the project" but its never really about the project...
 

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Well I asked her out to coffee today in person and she flaked, legit excuse since I overheard her talking over the phone, she counteroffered next week we'll see how it goes. Probably putting this girl on the backburner (for field practice) since I kinda figured she probably doesn't add value to my life at all.

Strike 1.
 

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I dont think that a girl busting your balls means she is attracted to you. Pretty much the opposite, unless she does it with everyone.

Do you know any guy that like to be teased all the time? do you like it? I dont.

Besides, she flaked and suggested next week right? NEXT WEEK? I bet she did not said a specific day, did she?

Better to move on to the next.

We men should stop falling into these traps women set like..instead of telling you directly 'im not interested in you' they go:
a) we'll talk some other time ok?
b) text me next thursday, monday...next week...
c) this week is impossible
e) im very busy right now
etc
etc
etc

what does all this mean? NOT INTERESTED.
 
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