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Girl keeps approaching at bars

kim jong chill

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So there's a girl who I met last fall in one of my classes. We never really talked much in class. But on the occasions we did, I noticed that a couple of times she would offer me compliments. For example, one time she said I would make an intimidating 1st year student (grad school, not college) because of how well-read I am (she's a 1st year, I'm 2nd, different departments). Another time, she said she told our mutual friend who is also from my department how smart the people from that department are in our class (i.e. me). Yet another time, she asked me pretty much out of nowhere where I was from, and after I told her the east coast, she said something like "Ah you could tell."

Anyway, over the past month I've run into her 3 times at our local bars.

The first time we made eye contact when she walked in, and a few minutes later she approached me. We had a brief convo just about classes, life, etc. and then she excused herself to go "find her friends." I didn't make much about it, but then later that night noticed she was eyeing me.

I added her as a Facebook friend after then, just because I was curious what she's all about. The second time, she again approached me again out of nowhere while I was sitting at a table. It was obvious she had been looking over my page because she brought up places where I had worked, etc etc. Again we talked, and once again she excused herself after a couple of minutes because she "didn't want my friends to think I abandoned them."

A couple of days ago the same thing happened. I was waiting in line at a bar and she walked up to me to say hi. She said she was supposed to meet her friend there. I tried talking to her but she kept looking past me to find that person. I decided not to bother forcing anything in that situation, but I did remark that every time I see her she always seems to be looking for her friends. After I sat back down my friends asked who she was, and later told me that they saw her looking over at our table twice. When I was leaving the bar she was talking to some dude, and I sort of tapped her on the side as I was passing by just as if to say bye.

So in short, this girl is sending mixed signals. What is the best way to handle the situation next time I see her (because I'm pretty sure I'll run into her again)?
 

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Zerro

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This story sounds a bit too familiar. Make a move ASAP so you don't waste your time wondering about her.
 
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