Anyway yesterday's date with this girl i've been seeing, i had not expected what would happen. English is her 2nd language. However if you want to jummp to the main points of this post, scroll down..........
So after class, i proceeded to holding her hands. Then all of a sudden she brings up something about what "we are (or define our relationship)". i dont remember the whole convo, but i mentioned being exclusive (she has no clue what it means or what casual dating means). Anyway i then asked what she wants, she was mentioning being formal aka - w/o being commited.
So anyway she says a bunch of other stuf i dont rmeember, and i said "lets talk more about this while we eat."
MAIN POINTS:
Anyway from the beginning she's been extremely honest with me, trusts me, and it proved yesterday that she has super high IL in me.
So as we eat, we talk about our relationships and stuff. She is honest and she feels that if she doesnt tell me, she'll regret it. And she is afraid it might scare me off if she does tell me.
- So she tells me, before she met me she's been seeing this guy for a year. She met him in her church, he came onto her (chased her). She said she went out with him in order to help her forget about her ex (so basically she settled for him)...said he's been very supportive and she knows is family well by now. HOWEVER, ever since she's been seeing me and when she's with that dude, she thinks of me. Anyway not sure if theyre supposed to be exclusive.
- She wants to break up with him, but she doesnt want to be mean or hurt his feelings. So i said, "if i were in his shoes i would want you to tell me, no point in wasting each others time since you're planning to do it sooner or later."
- Her EX of 5 yrs. funny story...ex told her to dump the dude and he'll come get her (he's in another country). She's been speaking to him the whole time. HOWEVER, since she's been seeing me, she hasnt spoken to him much or at all.
- said I was the better catch and she went for me. Goes to show girls like to keep their options open and settle for who they can at the moment (the ex and the dude). She imagined...that if we went hiking or something that she would have so much fun. She told me her conversations w/her friends about me (because she wanted to approach me).
- She doesnt want commitment at this stage. (i understand she's been stuck in a LTR with the ex in the past, that she has a lot of exploring she wants to do).
-We've been going out for only a month so im not in a hurry to rush anything. I understand stuff takes time and she's probably a little confused with what she wants.
- Anyway after taking that weight off her shoulders and telling me everything. She was very comfortable kinoing me/ kissing me/ hugging...etc.
So i told her my decision - things cant be rushed and takes time, i told her i understand. And that both of us would like to continue seeing each other.
Anyway after this, i realized how evil girls can be.
Do you guys agree or disagree with what i did? I thought i'd invite her over to my parent's house for dinner sometime...i dunno anymore.
So after class, i proceeded to holding her hands. Then all of a sudden she brings up something about what "we are (or define our relationship)". i dont remember the whole convo, but i mentioned being exclusive (she has no clue what it means or what casual dating means). Anyway i then asked what she wants, she was mentioning being formal aka - w/o being commited.
So anyway she says a bunch of other stuf i dont rmeember, and i said "lets talk more about this while we eat."
MAIN POINTS:
Anyway from the beginning she's been extremely honest with me, trusts me, and it proved yesterday that she has super high IL in me.
So as we eat, we talk about our relationships and stuff. She is honest and she feels that if she doesnt tell me, she'll regret it. And she is afraid it might scare me off if she does tell me.
- So she tells me, before she met me she's been seeing this guy for a year. She met him in her church, he came onto her (chased her). She said she went out with him in order to help her forget about her ex (so basically she settled for him)...said he's been very supportive and she knows is family well by now. HOWEVER, ever since she's been seeing me and when she's with that dude, she thinks of me. Anyway not sure if theyre supposed to be exclusive.
- She wants to break up with him, but she doesnt want to be mean or hurt his feelings. So i said, "if i were in his shoes i would want you to tell me, no point in wasting each others time since you're planning to do it sooner or later."
- Her EX of 5 yrs. funny story...ex told her to dump the dude and he'll come get her (he's in another country). She's been speaking to him the whole time. HOWEVER, since she's been seeing me, she hasnt spoken to him much or at all.
- said I was the better catch and she went for me. Goes to show girls like to keep their options open and settle for who they can at the moment (the ex and the dude). She imagined...that if we went hiking or something that she would have so much fun. She told me her conversations w/her friends about me (because she wanted to approach me).
- She doesnt want commitment at this stage. (i understand she's been stuck in a LTR with the ex in the past, that she has a lot of exploring she wants to do).
-We've been going out for only a month so im not in a hurry to rush anything. I understand stuff takes time and she's probably a little confused with what she wants.
- Anyway after taking that weight off her shoulders and telling me everything. She was very comfortable kinoing me/ kissing me/ hugging...etc.
So i told her my decision - things cant be rushed and takes time, i told her i understand. And that both of us would like to continue seeing each other.
Anyway after this, i realized how evil girls can be.
Do you guys agree or disagree with what i did? I thought i'd invite her over to my parent's house for dinner sometime...i dunno anymore.
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