Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Finally, someone else actually considering the opportunity with the woman!!...WesCottII said:I think what FA was trying to get at was that, she's an availiable opportunity to learn from.....
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Finally, someone else actually considering the opportunity with the woman!!...WesCottII said:I think what FA was trying to get at was that, she's an availiable opportunity to learn from.....
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ken785 said:We just did a scene today where we basically had to describe ourselves to the class. I found out she likes import cars and motorcycles and has a BF unfortunately...(FVCK!). I talked to her for a little bit during the break...she said she has mostly Chinese friends, i guess thats the reason why shes so interested in it, probably has a Chinese BF too....
do you really think being attracted to HER qualities is going to make her attracted to YOU? think of how that portrays you to her, it's like bowing down to her. and you say you are infatuated because of this? LOL. chinese must be the new french in kens world.Ken785 said:No No...I know what you're saying...im not in "love love"...im saying im really attracted to the qualities she has...because most other women cant do what she does. And this is not the first time ive mentioned i want to live in other countries to learn man...ive been wanting to do that..if you read some of my past threads you'll see...but im just saying it's definitely inspirational and beautiful to see a girl of such diverse culture know a language like that.
You should tell her that you have a boyfriend too, that way she'll know you're not jealousKen785 said:We just did a scene today where we basically had to describe ourselves to the class. I found out she likes import cars and motorcycles and has a BF unfortunately...(FVCK!). I talked to her for a little bit during the break...she said she has mostly Chinese friends, i guess thats the reason why shes so interested in it, probably has a Chinese BF too....
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I am also fluent in Chinese, in Mandarin but not Cantonese. When I was a kid my dad was in the state department and we lived there for awhile. I remember on the train once I overheard a Chinese family talking about me and trying to figure out what country I was from, my age, etc. all the while reassuring their kid that I was just a stupid foreigner and cannot understand that they were talking about me. I turned around and started talking to them i n Chinese and answered some of the questions they had and needless to say, the look on their face was priceless. This was a fairly frequent occurence at that time because most of them just assumed that white people cannot speak their language.Ken785 said:no no...i know what you're thinking...you think im thinking AFC letting this girl get to my head when i don't even know her...but she sparked ideas in my head and if you read my earlier threads ive always wanted to travel to different countries and teaching English is a good way to do that, but its just talk right now...
wouldn't you guys think its cool to learn a new language people wouldn't have any idea that you know and just totally blow them away with it??