"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Girl in a large group

Comeback kid

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There was this girl that i wanted to talk to today, but she was sitting with 4 of her friends at a lunch table. For some reason everytime i got near going to the table i just couldn't do it. I would raise up the motivation to do it but then something held me back. It was weird. I couldn't think of a good opener since she was with her friends. What would a DJ do in this situation. I read something that said to flirt with the whole group of friends, But I don't really feel like flirting with all of her friends at the same time, so how am i suppose to talk to her??
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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KontrollerX

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You ever see that movie American Beauty?

The guy in it is interested in this one chick so much he approaches her whenever she's with her hot blond friend and totally ignores the blond just going after what he wants like the blond isn't even there.

You could do that as it shows extreme confidence.
 

kdnash82

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I agree with KontrollerX. Girls in big groups are intimidating as hell for some guys. When I go out to the club, you'll see a guy and his wing circling the club. They'll only talk to girls that are either in a pair or a group of 3, but no more than that.

On the other hand, I don't agree with not talking to the friend. I wouldn't flirt with them until I know that the girl I'm interest in, is interest in me. I would definately make them a part of the conversation if things are going well. It takes attention from the girl you want. If she fights to get that attention back then you're golden!

Women know that when they're in a big group, it's intimidating. Basically that's their way of saying that they're not there to meet guys. On the other hand, there are women who are just plain stupid and will constantly ask themselves the question of "Why won't any guys come talk to me? Why is it so hard to find a good man?" when they're surrounded by 5 women whenever they go out.

I get a rush out of going into a huge group of women. I'm weird. 6/10 times I will get shot down. Definately not good odds, but I continue to do it anyway. The other 4 times, I will get shot down initially, then the girl will find me later and tell me something to the fact of how impressed she was by the fact that I would approach her when she's in a group so big.

Overall, I would approach and greet the girl that you like. Greet her friends. If she doesn't know you, introduce yourself. Then get to the point of asking her for her phone number. Conversations about life and crap can be had at a different time.
 
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