MeetTheVirus
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Been reading the forums for awhile but never had much to post until now. I am kind of a newbie in the game which is why i'm looking for advice from other members on what they would do in the situation i'm in with this one. Will give as much details as I can remember to help.
EDIT: Sorry for the long ass story. Main questions in the title but details of it are below:
So me and a friend have been talking with a bunch of girls online together and managed to get a few of them to join us for a BBQ / hot tub kick back at my place on the rooftop. One girl comes and instantly there's a connection. We go away from the group and spend time in the hot tub solo for a couple hours talking and having a good time. After the hot tub we go back to my place and she wants to take a shower and invites me to come join her. I say **** yes and hop in the shower with her. Throughout the night I have been escalating using kino very well and figure this was in the bag. Were in the shower laughing and I go to make a move and we end up kissing. At this point I figured she was single for joining us at the kickback and asking me to hop in the shower. She ends up pulling me away and says, "I can't do this, I have a boyfriend who's in jail." This came out of no where to me and she never mentioned him during the night so I shrug it off like w/e and we keep laughing and **** like before. She ends up falling asleep in my bed since she was a little buzzed to drive and ends up giving me her number in the morning. At this point I figure it might still be a possibility but would have to find a little more info on boyfriend before hand before going further and would probably be best if I build up trust first. At this point she knows damn well I want more than just friends so i'm not worried about friend zone.
I invite her to hangout for some drinks just me and her and she agrees. She comes over and keeps saying stuff like are you sure this looks okay? I dont want to embarrass you at the bar you go to a lot" etc. showing that she is into me enough to care and signs of nervousness and lack of self esteem. I figure at this point if I move slow with her and build trust with her that I might be able to make something out of this.
We start bar hopping and I ask her about her situation and her boyfriend to get more information on if there is a possibility. She tells me misses him but he is a druggy that is locked up for another 6 months (doing 9 months or some ****) I start building up the boyfriend to make me look better, etc. At this point she tells me SHE DOUBTS THEY WILL BE TOGETHER ONCE HE GETS OUT ANYWAYS BECAUSE HE WANTS TO MOVE TO IDAHO TO BE WITH HIS KIDS. I think to myself, "exactly what I wanted to hear!" She initiates holding hands with me and giving me lot's of kino on the walk home.
At this point I make the mistake of getting way too hammered and so is she :cuss: we eventually get back to my place and I start making moves on her. Kissing, rubbing, hickies, etc. I do not go all the way as I was not prepared like an idiot. A) I was out of condoms. B) I was still hesitant on the boyfriend thing and didn't want to spook her going to fast (probably a mistake here) C) I was hella tired and way to drunk - I barley remember much after the bar. She wasn't telling me no but I felt she wasn't escalating with me or making any moves back like she wanted more.
We wake up and I don't really remember much of wtf happened and thinking to myself I am ****ing idiot for letting that slip away. I walk her to the car and ask her when she I will see her again and she says she wants to hang out again on Saturday (tomorrow).
I see her again tomorrow and was wondering what you guys think I should do it this position? She doesn't reply to text messages often, is very short when she does and seems to be very "busy" somehow even though shes unemployed and not going to school. I would say shes obviously feeling me and when were together she seems to have a lot of fun and wants something more but hesitant with druggy boyfriend still in prison for some reason... that I can't seem to break from her (or at least yet; only seen her a couple times now).
I feel like tomorrow I will go for it and see what reaction is and if it's not good then forget about her all together.. but if any one as advice or tips on how to escalate this further and get boyfriend out of her head it would be greatly appreciated.
EDIT: Sorry for the long ass story. Main questions in the title but details of it are below:
So me and a friend have been talking with a bunch of girls online together and managed to get a few of them to join us for a BBQ / hot tub kick back at my place on the rooftop. One girl comes and instantly there's a connection. We go away from the group and spend time in the hot tub solo for a couple hours talking and having a good time. After the hot tub we go back to my place and she wants to take a shower and invites me to come join her. I say **** yes and hop in the shower with her. Throughout the night I have been escalating using kino very well and figure this was in the bag. Were in the shower laughing and I go to make a move and we end up kissing. At this point I figured she was single for joining us at the kickback and asking me to hop in the shower. She ends up pulling me away and says, "I can't do this, I have a boyfriend who's in jail." This came out of no where to me and she never mentioned him during the night so I shrug it off like w/e and we keep laughing and **** like before. She ends up falling asleep in my bed since she was a little buzzed to drive and ends up giving me her number in the morning. At this point I figure it might still be a possibility but would have to find a little more info on boyfriend before hand before going further and would probably be best if I build up trust first. At this point she knows damn well I want more than just friends so i'm not worried about friend zone.
I invite her to hangout for some drinks just me and her and she agrees. She comes over and keeps saying stuff like are you sure this looks okay? I dont want to embarrass you at the bar you go to a lot" etc. showing that she is into me enough to care and signs of nervousness and lack of self esteem. I figure at this point if I move slow with her and build trust with her that I might be able to make something out of this.
We start bar hopping and I ask her about her situation and her boyfriend to get more information on if there is a possibility. She tells me misses him but he is a druggy that is locked up for another 6 months (doing 9 months or some ****) I start building up the boyfriend to make me look better, etc. At this point she tells me SHE DOUBTS THEY WILL BE TOGETHER ONCE HE GETS OUT ANYWAYS BECAUSE HE WANTS TO MOVE TO IDAHO TO BE WITH HIS KIDS. I think to myself, "exactly what I wanted to hear!" She initiates holding hands with me and giving me lot's of kino on the walk home.
At this point I make the mistake of getting way too hammered and so is she :cuss: we eventually get back to my place and I start making moves on her. Kissing, rubbing, hickies, etc. I do not go all the way as I was not prepared like an idiot. A) I was out of condoms. B) I was still hesitant on the boyfriend thing and didn't want to spook her going to fast (probably a mistake here) C) I was hella tired and way to drunk - I barley remember much after the bar. She wasn't telling me no but I felt she wasn't escalating with me or making any moves back like she wanted more.
We wake up and I don't really remember much of wtf happened and thinking to myself I am ****ing idiot for letting that slip away. I walk her to the car and ask her when she I will see her again and she says she wants to hang out again on Saturday (tomorrow).
I see her again tomorrow and was wondering what you guys think I should do it this position? She doesn't reply to text messages often, is very short when she does and seems to be very "busy" somehow even though shes unemployed and not going to school. I would say shes obviously feeling me and when were together she seems to have a lot of fun and wants something more but hesitant with druggy boyfriend still in prison for some reason... that I can't seem to break from her (or at least yet; only seen her a couple times now).
I feel like tomorrow I will go for it and see what reaction is and if it's not good then forget about her all together.. but if any one as advice or tips on how to escalate this further and get boyfriend out of her head it would be greatly appreciated.
