"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl hangs up on phone...response?

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Background: I met this chick which I would say is a 8...pretty girl, fake tits. She is very nice personality wise and acts 'caring'.
We started meeting a couple of months ago and ended up in a relationship, I ended the relationship by disappearing. I got the urge to **** her again and we started seeing each other etc.

She likes to party and always is doing TV shows or going to events and whatnot. She has alot of friends in the "reality show" world...which I find pathetic but keep to myself. I have simultaneously been seeing/****ing 3 other women at the same time, I am a player and always have been.

Anyway here's the problem. 2 days ago I check her blog for no reason other than I was bored. It is some kind of rant about how all these feelings have swept her off her feet and whatnot. So obviously being her "boyfriend" I think she is falling in love with me.

So here is where I made the mistake of letting her know I read her blog. I called her and asked her if she was referring to me in her blog....she started stumbling and uhhhh eaaah yeaaaa uhhh...of course!!

So this led me to believe she start getting feelings for someone else or whatever.

She went to some party yesterday til early in the morning, I dont care if she ****ed someone or whatever.



She called me a hour ago and we talk a little bit like normal, then all of a sudden she is like "yeah I'll call you later". I asked her what she was doing? She said "im still in XXX city". I replied OK but thats not what I asked, what are you doing?

She hung up on me. And I called her up and she aborted the call.

This girl is overly nice at all times and I really dont know whats going on.

How do I respond to her hanging up? Should I answer when she calls or just ignore her?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How does that hook feel in the corner of your mouth? Honestly if you are such a player just next her, It really sounds to me you like her but you don't want us beating you up about the AFC move. You may have to ignore with NC and let her come to you...
 

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LayercakeBryan said:
How does that hook feel in the corner of your mouth? Honestly if you are such a player just next her, It really sounds to me you like her but you don't want us beating you up about the AFC move. You may have to ignore with NC and let her come to you...


I have to admit I like her more since this **** happened. Probably like the girls who start falling in love with me as soon as I stop caring about them.

I think having NC will actually just pave the way for the next guy that is trying to hook her up, if that havent happened already.

Whats the next best thing in this case?
 

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She just texted me this: low battery, call you soon


It is actually kind of logical since well...her charger is here next to me.


I dont care though, I will still give her a **** parade for a couple of days.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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mustfirstregister

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hey player. Next her...u have 3 other women. wtf....you have oneitis just for your information.
 

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mustfirstregister said:
hey player. Next her...u have 3 other women. wtf....you have oneitis just for your information.

problem is im way to picky...

*heads off to slap myself normal*
 

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Seems it is those slightly crazy ones that keep us interested.

As soon as anyone develops feelings, everyone here is quick to shout
oneitis. But many of them are looking for a girl that is high quality
enough to have that same kind of feeling for.

You are ahead of the game in that you spin plates and you know she
probably does too. If you can truly handle that then just spend some time
with the other plates. Become less available,

At this point I'm not a big believer in actively nexting anyone. Just
start to do it passively, and see if she starts responding.
It's funny, so much has been written about attraction, comfort,
and seduction escalations but not about relationship escalation.
There is a gap in knowledge. We should work together to fill it in.
 

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jtlancer said:
You are ahead of the game in that you spin plates and you know she
probably does too. If you can truly handle that then just spend some time
with the other plates. Become less available,
I agree with this

At this point I'm not a big believer in actively nexting anyone. Just
start to do it passively, and see if she starts responding.
Totally agree with this. I never 'next' a chick unless it's clear she's not going to put out or if the sex is bad. Just do your thing with the other chicks, and either 1) she comes to you or 2) she 'nexts' herself.

I always let women 'next' themselves, unless they're physically endangering me or my family or something. Just put out less effort and either she will put out more to re-establish the connection or she will go her merry way and cause some other guy trouble.
 

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Same thing here as well, taking a step back and seeing if she takes a step forward.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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great tips guys.

well I called her out and told her I dont have any time to be playing around with her...and she admitted she was getting feelings for this other dude and it wasnt her fault because I didnt care about her at all etc etc.....

So I told her we can still be "friends" (what does that mean...anyone?) so I have the possibility of hooking up with her in the future if I want.
Told her im off to new york with work (I work in aviation) and told her "we'd keep in touch".


I actually hooked another girl up the same day which is a legit model for big names in the fashion world and is studying law...meeting up with her tonight.
Used to flirt with her but never got around to it until we somehow started talking on the street yesterday...wish me luck boys
 

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has logic gone down the drain these days?
she hung up on you only to text you 45 mins later that her phone battery was low?
if her battery was low, she could have just told you in 3 seconds while on the phone with you.
She lied to you and you believed it.

I dunno, something is weird with your post. you have all these chics, but yet you get hamstrung by one chic hanging up on you enough so to post it on here.
 
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