"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Girl flaked out too many times on me, is often late

Vice

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I met this girl on MySpace.
Got her number and talked to her for a while.
She says she wants to meet me.
I tell her that we can meet at Starbucks.
The first time, I call her up and she says that she's going to her dads house nearby and that she might not be able to make it, "I'm not making any promises" she says.
So I do what is right: cancel.
So I cancel.

A few days later, yesterday on Friday, she's eating at a Japanese restaurant near Starbucks, and I was available, so we make plans to meet.

I get there at about 8:55, order my drink, and sit down to read the Millionare Mind while I waited for her. After finishing my drink at 9:15, I leave because she didn't come.
Five minutes later she texts me saying "where are you?" and I reply with "I left."

Then she texts me and later calls me. I tell her that I'm heading out of town to go to this club I like to socialize at. I let her know that it was her last chance in a while to see me because I'm so busy.

Today I text her to tell her that I canceled my plans due to bad weather.
She went out to eat with her dad, and told me to call her in an hour.
I called in an hour and twenty minutes. No answer.
I try again twenty minutes later. No answer.
So I head to the bookstore and start reading "The Game" by Neil Strauss, and decided to buy it... online. It's $35 in bookstores!!

Then she texts me saying that she left her phone on silent and that she 'just' saw the calls and she 'feels terrible now'. I ignore it and she sends another one twenty minutes later saying 'im so sorry :('.

Now, this is bull****. If she wanted to meet me as bad as she said she did, she would have called me FIRST thing, as soon as she could, or at least texted me.

What should I reply with? I'm thinking about nexting this girl but I don't have anyone else really on my list...

Keep in mind that I'm 17, and she is as well.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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splinterkb

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All I see her doing is making excuses for why you guys can't hang out, etc. Just say its fine.. and leave it at that. Try ignoring her for a while and see how bad she freaks out.. try to gauge how interested she is.
 

The Deacon

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Teenage girls are notorious flakers. Some of them are just damn impossible to figure out. I'd just cut my losses here.
 

Jitterbug

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Vice said:
Then she texts me saying that she left her phone on silent and that she 'just' saw the calls and she 'feels terrible now'. I ignore it and she sends another one twenty minutes later saying 'im so sorry :('.

Now, this is bull****. If she wanted to meet me as bad as she said she did, she would have called me FIRST thing, as soon as she could, or at least texted me.

What should I reply with? I'm thinking about nexting this girl but I don't have anyone else really on my list...
Tell her "OK, now how are you gonna make it up to me?" If you flake on your friends like that, tell me you're gonna make it up to them somehow, right? Like buy them drinks, lunch or something, yes? At the very least, hold her to that standard.
 

L B

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Reliability comes first. If she fails that test, she is a failure in my book.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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