"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girl fell for me now what?

rkc09

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So the girl who I mentioned in the previous thread fell for me. We were talking on the phone and she asked me if I was "thinking" of her? I said yea and asked her. She said she was thinkin of me but just as a friend thought but something alot more than a friend. She said that we should bond more. I see her tomorrow at church. What should I do? Ask her out to the movies, ask her to be my gf? What should I Do? (I haven't had a gf in 6 YEARS and I'm not used to this feeling and I don't know what to do)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Axcell

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I doubt this girl has fallen for you based on the information you have provided me. When she asked you whether you were thinking of her, you shouldn't have responded with a "Yes." - you appear as too needy, and there is no doubt you are since you haven't had a girlfriend in such a large amount of time!

Okay, so you need some tips. My first tip, start playing a bit more hard to get, you are making yourself too easily available to her. Never let her know you are thinking about her and always be mysterious by not answering her questions directly. You may ask: "Axcell, how do I not answer her questions directly?" Its simple.

If she asks you: "So what do you do for a career?" Respond with something such as: "Oh, I work in slave business. You know, import/export, etc." OR "I am a model, but I hate how these people are just using me for my body, I need a new job!"

Another example: "Lets sit here." You respond with "No, let's sit over here." (Pointing at a different place.)

Be a DJ, be a LEADER.

Okay, so you will be seeing her at church - that's great! If you developed a high amount of rapport with her, she should approach you when you make eye contact with her. Be a little ****y + funny with her, game her, and ensure that she has such a great time that she will want to spend more time with you elsewhere. (Possibly movies, etc.) Do NOT ask her out until she gives you some more IOI (Indicators if interest.)

Be calm, I don't see how you can even think about asking her out this early, unless you missed out pointing vital information in your post..

Anyway - I hope I helped you out. If you have any specific questions about what I posted, or anything else, feel free to PM me.

Axcell.
 

rkc09

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Here's the thing. Everything that you said to do in the post above I have been doing those things. When we were chatting up on the phone she actually answered the question first. (Sorry for not specific) But she has shown alot of interest in me. Look at my thread "I need some help" for details. I'm not needy btw, I really don't care about getting a gf, even tho I won't mind having one. But we have developed alot of rapport. But I wasn't sure what to do next.

btw, thanks for the info
 
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