"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girl doesnt seem to get out much

Embrace

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It seems odd to me, but a chick that is interested in my from work doesnt sound like she gets and and socializes a lot. She's not ugly or anything... is it just the type of girl she is? I havent seen any girts before who arent out partying a lot. It seems weird, I wonder if there's something wrong with her.

Keep my age into consideration, 17

Any thoughts?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ojete

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Does it matter to you? what kind of relationship do you want with her? If so, does it match you own personality and/or you feel confortable with it?

If not, who cares, just fvck her.
 

Thomas94305

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A lot of people are shy.. in polls, over 50% of the people in the USA call themselves shy. Every AFC has shyness, approach anxiety is related to shyness, and we all can identify with that. I personally think that a lot of people just portray this image of having friends.. having things to do on the weekends. However, a lot more than we think, at any age range, regularly spend weekends alone. I personally sarge alone all the time, and am only slowly building a circle of friends, and people say I'm very sociable. Now, if they're calling me sociable, and I have to deal with "loneliness", imagine others who are too paralyzed to put in the energy.

I basically agree with Ojete, but would use different words. Don't get drawn into her problems. You know very well you have to face your social anxieties for yourself. Let her own her shyness, or whatever it is.

However, if you feel good around her, by all means, keep that going! Your options are to keep things as they are.. saying hi at work. Or, you can grab a cup of coffee together, invite her to lunch when you go out with friends.. friendship kind of behavior. Or, if she passes your requirements, you can advance to more than friends.

Personally, if she's cool to be around, I'd at least invite her out to lunch with friends.. I can always use another friend.
 

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I've been dying for a girl like that! less problems!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Raikojo17

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woods said:
I've been dying for a girl like that! less problems!
lol yup, im talkin to girl like that now. she's not shy or introverted or ugly, she jus doesnt go out alot. everytime i call her she's at home.
that means there will be tons less compition and problems for me to deal with.:rock:
 

ValleyDJing

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Raikojo17 said:
lol yup, im talkin to girl like that now. she's not shy or introverted or ugly, she jus doesnt go out alot. everytime i call her she's at home.
that means there will be tons less compition and problems for me to deal with.:rock:
I'm gonna go ahead and join the club too!
 
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