"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Girl deleted beta orbiters texts

Uncharted

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Girl I'm seeing (not girlfriend) is showing me something in her text messages, I see a thread from another guy (no big deal - I know he has no shot because he's emo beta) and she deletes it before handing me the phone.

Normally I would assume she would leave it in there to make me jealous. That's what I would do at least. I don't care that she texts other guys for attention especially this guy. Is this weird or just me?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It's nothing until you make it something. If she's not GF and you're fcuking her then just try to forget it because the more it bugs you as to why she did it, the more jealousy you reflect and more power you're freely giving away to her.

She had already decided to delete it just happened while you were there. Reasons to why? there's something on there she didn't want you to see or she figured if you see her delete it then you'd think she doesn't care for the dude.

Let the curiosity go. If she didn't say anything about it then its nothing.
 

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Maybe it was nothing, like you were assuming. But it became something when she deleted it, which she knew would happen.
 

MrNiceGuy23

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Since she's not your girlfriend I wouldn't make an issue out of it. If it was within the realms of a relationship I would be suspicious, but wouldn't press the issue until it became a habit. If you were to see her constantly deleting her messages with him off her phone, then something is going on. Who deletes the entire thread with someone they frequently talk to? I know plenty of people who delete inactive threads to avoid the clutter.
 

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A short while back I read an article likening the dating world to a prison yard. In short, don't show weakness, don't crumble, or you WILL get f*cked (up).

Try to never lose sight of the power dynamics of your relationship with a girl. Doesn't matter if it's just FB, FWB, or a LTR, it all plays out the same in the end. This is your responsibility as a man, to stay solid, grounded, indifferent. Always process anything that you say and/or do (or don't say and/or don't do) through a "power filter" if you will (ie I want to tell her X or do X for her - from what I've read/ know/ have experienced, what effect will this likely have on the dynamics of the relationship?) Ideally, you would practice this sort of behavior enough times (might take practicing with a large number of girls too) that it would become a part of you organically in due time, so that eventually you wouldn't even have to think about when to laugh off a stupid sh1t test, and when to walk away from incorrigible behavior.

In your case, you'd be backsliding bigtime if you showed any sign of discomfort by what she did since you two are not exclusive.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
You dont "know" anything about the kind of men women will fvck on the side, obviously.
My thoughts exactly.
 
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