Girl at Work Problem
Hi everybody; new member here. I have a little dilemna that I could use some help with. This girl at work was talking to me and two other guys in my department(I'll call them Mark and Mike) I generally keep to myself at work so I wasn't expecting her to talk to me. She asked me why my face was red, and I was a bit caught off guard and gave her an AFC answer(something about being hot). I was embarassed and the two other guys were cracking up. I get nervous around attractive women sometimes.
Later on Mike told me this girl was interested in me. I wasn't sure if I believed him (I'm ok with him but he's kind of an instigator) so I just said "I don't know we'll see what happens". He told me he's having a get together at his house for his birthday, and that she'll be there (this guy has a gf of his own by the way), and asked me if I wanted to come by. Honestly I didnt' really want to go but since I blew him off a few times I said I'll try to stop by.
So I stopped up there and actually had a good time. I got along with Mike pretty well (surprisingly) and I got pretty friendly with this girl (nothing sexual happened, but we were pretty touchy feely and were having a fun (she had to leave early though).
Things were starting to get a little different at work. Mike keeps asking me if I'm gonna try and get with this chick. I said "I don't know man, don't worry about it" (wondering why the hell is he so interested). To be honest I'm not that interested in her, except for maybe a one night stand (hb7, not the greatest of intelligence/personality
. I figure he is either a. Trying to help me out (not as likely) b. Feels guilty (maybe) or c. is screwing with me(most likely).
In regards to this girl, we're starting to become a bit more friendly with each other(teasing, ****y& funny) but its still kind of awkward. I'm not positive she likes me but I think its definitely possible. Eventually she has walks up to me with a coworker(guy, most likely gay) and she has him ask me if I think shes attractive(she thinks/knows I like her). I play it cool at first but eventually cave and say she looks nice. I avoid her the rest of the day and she asks if I'm mad. I simply say no( I wasn't really).
The other guy, Mark (I trust him more than Mike, but not by much) says that Mike told this girl I liked her because of that one incident. I'm like "what the hell, he's messin with me, I'll straighten his a** out". At the same time though I think this girl is already under the impression I like her because I was uncomfortable a couple of times.
I have 2 questions:1.Since banging this chick is most likely not gonna happen, what the the best way of telling her she has the wrong idea about me, and that I'm not interested?, and 2. What's the best way of dealing with this clown Mike? My reputation/manhood is on the line. Thanks for reading and any help is appreciated.
Hi everybody; new member here. I have a little dilemna that I could use some help with. This girl at work was talking to me and two other guys in my department(I'll call them Mark and Mike) I generally keep to myself at work so I wasn't expecting her to talk to me. She asked me why my face was red, and I was a bit caught off guard and gave her an AFC answer(something about being hot). I was embarassed and the two other guys were cracking up. I get nervous around attractive women sometimes.
Later on Mike told me this girl was interested in me. I wasn't sure if I believed him (I'm ok with him but he's kind of an instigator) so I just said "I don't know we'll see what happens". He told me he's having a get together at his house for his birthday, and that she'll be there (this guy has a gf of his own by the way), and asked me if I wanted to come by. Honestly I didnt' really want to go but since I blew him off a few times I said I'll try to stop by.
So I stopped up there and actually had a good time. I got along with Mike pretty well (surprisingly) and I got pretty friendly with this girl (nothing sexual happened, but we were pretty touchy feely and were having a fun (she had to leave early though).
Things were starting to get a little different at work. Mike keeps asking me if I'm gonna try and get with this chick. I said "I don't know man, don't worry about it" (wondering why the hell is he so interested). To be honest I'm not that interested in her, except for maybe a one night stand (hb7, not the greatest of intelligence/personality
. I figure he is either a. Trying to help me out (not as likely) b. Feels guilty (maybe) or c. is screwing with me(most likely). In regards to this girl, we're starting to become a bit more friendly with each other(teasing, ****y& funny) but its still kind of awkward. I'm not positive she likes me but I think its definitely possible. Eventually she has walks up to me with a coworker(guy, most likely gay) and she has him ask me if I think shes attractive(she thinks/knows I like her). I play it cool at first but eventually cave and say she looks nice. I avoid her the rest of the day and she asks if I'm mad. I simply say no( I wasn't really).
The other guy, Mark (I trust him more than Mike, but not by much) says that Mike told this girl I liked her because of that one incident. I'm like "what the hell, he's messin with me, I'll straighten his a** out". At the same time though I think this girl is already under the impression I like her because I was uncomfortable a couple of times.
I have 2 questions:1.Since banging this chick is most likely not gonna happen, what the the best way of telling her she has the wrong idea about me, and that I'm not interested?, and 2. What's the best way of dealing with this clown Mike? My reputation/manhood is on the line. Thanks for reading and any help is appreciated.
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