GF material?

[2bAlpha]

Tried online dating for ****s and grins. First date was with a HB8ish. turns out we know some of the same people so I hinted at the 'fate' card. she buys it, spent the whole weekend and another night a couple days later. ssex on second night, great sex on third. observed that she isn't on phone alot and hinted she doesn't have alot of friends. kinda a nerdy chick, educated professional chick. smokes weed moderatley. so you guys, being this is the first chick i pulled off the internet, is this chick relationship material or just an everyday *****? do i shoot for fcuk buddy or girlfriend?

 

[mtlwlu]

if its your first girl, or only girl u got on the go try and get more, just because she put out and you had a good time, dont jump the gun to early try a few more. Its like buying a car, sure the first one might drive real good and feel good but theres 8 other car dealerships a walk away.

 

[Interceptor]

Those are questions that you have to understand that no one but yourself can answer for you.

If you're told to go for an exclusive LTR, but you dont really want it, and you do, what then?
And what if you're told to go the FB route, but you really want to be with her on a much deeper level, then what?

You see how YOU have to know what YOU want BEFORE you 'pull' any woman from anywhere? it doesnt matter where, a bar, the supermarket, anywhere...
YOU have to KNOW what you want, what you're ready for, and what are deal breakers for you.

You can research what makes generally good GF material, in terms of the Qualites a partner should have, but you cant go on teh internetz and ask
"Hey! Tell me what I want for my life!!! Tell me what I should want!!!"

Can you see how you're giving away your power and giving your responsibility to some people who dont know you to CHOOSE for you???


For now, I say dont jump the gun and be OVER EAGER with this woman.
Just because you had good sex does not mean its a relationship, and it doesnt necessarily mean she's a downright ho exactly either...

You're going to have to be gutsy and navigate this one on your own.
And follow your VALUES and what you want in a woman.
You know you want female companionship.
However, in an exclusive commited LTR, you are going to have to be more giving than in just an FB/NSA situation.
If you're not ready to fully be there, then slow down. Respect her needs too.

Good luck.
I hope this helps clear things up a little, and you start reflecting on who you are and what you want, and what your needs are.

 

[JLW]

And follow your VALUES and what you want in a woman.
You know you want female companionship.

If you read nothing else from any of these posts, at least read this.

We cannot answer whether or not she is GF material. No matter how in-depth you describe her to us, you still are the one who is actually with her and seeing her. You should know what you want.

I would tend to agree not to jump the gun, though. Maybe wait a week or two (at the very least). At the same time, who are we to say?

 

[2bAlpha]

thanks for the time guys. the problem is that I am acting like a total afc for once. usually im a total prick to women and could care less. this chick is really cool and caught me off guard not thinking i wanted a ltr now. but now i'm confused if she is a slut or not and if i'm just a fcuk or potential ltr. dunno guys, but thanks for the input!