Gf is 3 years older than me, I led her on. Help me backbreaker

[megan92m]

Ignore the name, I'm a dude.

I'm almost 22, my gf just turned 25. I'm asian she's white. My first gf, first love, lost my virginity to her. Dating since this time last year. Moved in with me in august.

She's from a poor, rural area where most people are married with 6 kids by 25 and going to college is considered an accomplishment. We're currently in a top 3 metropolitan city (NYC, Chicago, LA).

We had a pretty intense honeymoon period last summer. Me, having never had a relationship before and falling head over heels, promised her the world - raising a family together, growing old together, seeing the world together, all the fairy tales. And I really meant it, couldn't see anything else in the world.

Note that I CONSTANTLY said these things. Like EVERY DAY. Really promised her the universe and beyond.

She's a feminine, old-fashioned girl who doesn't really have career aspirations and main goals in life are to get married and have kids. Only had one c0ck before me, and that was with her high school bf. Of course I'm pretty much giving her her lifelong fairytale by promising all of these things.

Problem is, I'm actually pretty ambitious and don't want kids dragging me down before I have a reasonable amount of success. I always envisioned not having kids until 35 or older. And she would have them RIGHT NOW if she could. I'd imagine with her we'd kind of meet in the middle and have them when I'm 28 and she's 31.

Of course there's also a desire I have to go enjoy other poon and try different things.

So I guess only recently I've started thinking more rationally about things. Yesterday we had a talk where someone it got to the point that I mentioned I couldn't promise being with her forever.

Now she's extremely hurt and PISSED. Saying how I've lied to her, led her on, everything was a lie, did I do this all for my own entertainment...mostly things she knows aren't true, but she's just so hurt she can't help it.

What the hell do I do?!?! I do think I'd rather stick with her forever rather than go spin plates for 15 years. But I worry about if I change my mind 6 years from now, I'll have made her put off having kids for nothing

 

[megan92m]

And because I know some of you azzholes are going to ask. She's cute but dresses conservatively - she wore jeans on our first like 10 dates. If she dolled up and put on some slutty dresses (which I've been trying to get her to do) she'd be easily in the 8-9 range. Dating wise, honestly I think the only reason she hasn't had more c0cks is because she's sooooo damn passive that probably almost every guy has written her off thinking she's just not interested

 

[GotED?]

why start a stupid thread when you only want to talk to ONE person and can just private message Backbreaker??

Attention Whooring??

 

[JoeMarron]

Fvck being a provider. Find a chick who's at the same income level as you, preferably higher than yours. You're bullsh!tting yourself. If you would rather stick with her forever then you wouldn't be hesitant about being with her. I'm about the same age as you and a married hypocrite but you're young and ambitions. Don't waste it by locking yourself down to this chick, especially when she's just going to pop out kids and leech off of your success. You need to consider letting this chick go. Let her find her white knight while you're busy taking over the world. Don't let your first taste of pvssy ruin you. Oh and read this http://therationalmale.com/2011/10/14/dream-killers/

 

[megan92m]

Btw she repeatedly says she feels like she's not good enough for me etc. Loyalty testing...

 

[Black Widow Void]

You didn't lead her on (at least according to your posting). You are growing up and realizing that there are many options out there (not just with women).

My theory is not a "one size fits" all, but hear me out on this one.

From reading your posting, I'm thinking that once you break up, you will have guilt. When you go out to meet other women, that guilt display is going to kill most if not all of your opportunities. You will then become nostalgic (a human trait that we've all experienced) and miss her and try to reconcile.

Then it's back to square one. Eventually, the honeymoon phase will be over and you'll be thinking again about venturing out.

Your break up will probably not be easy, but if you are true to yourself (and her) you will succeed. Also, because she's of rural culture do not have unproductive sex any longer.

 

[RagingBalls]

Oh dear OP, you disregard us other DJ's here, damn :trouble: heheh