gf has alot of guy friends and...

[Climax]

Over the past i have noticed that nearly every guy that i know has this problem, so i thought we would discuss it here...

What is a guy to do if he has a gf and she has alot of guy friends, and she always hugs them etc, and the bf cant STAND the fact that his gf is always hugging and getting close with other guys (Eg: hugging them, sitting on their laps, sms'ing them alot, etc)...

This is an obvious sign of insecurity, but my question is: How do guys get OVER that insecurity and get to the point where they will be 100% fine with the fact that their gf is hugging other guys etc?

I personally also had the same problem, but i guess that it was because i never trusted the girl that i was involved with enough, so in my experiances, it has to do with TRUST...

What u guys think?


Laterz...

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Are all her guys friends DJs? Probably not. Are you a DJ? Definitely not (no offense). If you were a DJ you would care less because you and she know that she traded up when she started dating you.

It's all about confidence, which means that you don't feel like you need to compete with every guy she interacts with. You've got to be the guy that she chooses to be with because you and only you understands her. You make her feel better than anyone else has ever. She's lucky to have you and she knows it. PLUS she knows that you're so confident in yourself, she doesn't need to protect your ego.

The plus side to this situation is that what's good for the goose is good for the gander. YOU can be as friendly with your girl friends and at that matter, HER girl friends too. Why not? You are a charismatic and friendly guy right? Plus there's nothing better than having you girlfriend's girl friends tell her how much they like you. Will she get jealous, possibly. Will she work harder to keep YOUR interest? Probably. Will you love all of the attention? DEFINITELY!!!!

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

I try to stay away from girls with lots of guy friends period. Nothing to do with security issues. They're just full of problems from my experiences. Don't want any.

 

[Climax]

yip yip...

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Are all her guys friends DJs? Probably not. Are you a DJ? Definitely not (no offense). If you were a DJ you would care less because you and she know that she traded up when she started dating you.

It's all about confidence, which means that you don't feel like you need to compete with every guy she interacts with. You've got to be the guy that she chooses to be with because you and only you understands her. You make her feel better than anyone else has ever. She's lucky to have you and she knows it. PLUS she knows that you're so confident in yourself, she doesn't need to protect your ego.

The plus side to this situation is that what's good for the goose is good for the gander. YOU can be as friendly with your girl friends and at that matter, HER girl friends too. Why not? You are a charismatic and friendly guy right? Plus there's nothing better than having you girlfriend's girl friends tell her how much they like you. Will she get jealous, possibly. Will she work harder to keep YOUR interest? Probably. Will you love all of the attention? DEFINITELY!!!!

Like always, your advice is very good and true... and i know that whta u are saying is true because i overcame MY problem with it a while ago BECAUSE i was thinking like u think... and yes, its very good advice, and i think that alot of guys just simply dont think that THEY are good enough for that chick, and then start asking themselves "maybe that guy will treat her better than me" or " maybe that guy will make her more happy than i do/will" etc.... But i learnt that there is no such thing as another guy being "better" than u, just be yourself and treat her like she deserves to be teated, and like u WANT to treat her ( weahter u treat her normally, or treat her like gold), and if she DOES think that another guy is the "better choice" then thats her choice, but being a dj, and making sure that YOU are the one that she IS and always WILL be happy with, you dont have anything to worry about... and by BEING so confident in yourself, that will refelc a positive image of you.

Thanx for the replies...


Laterz...

 

[ScrewIt]

Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
I try to stay away from girls with lots of guy friends period. Nothing to do with security issues. They're just full of problems from my experiences. Don't want any.

indeed they are

 

[Blue Phoenix]

Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
I try to stay away from girls with lots of guy friends period. Nothing to do with security issues. They're just full of problems from my experiences. Don't want any.

Until now, this is the best policy!

 

[The Brotrain]

Chances are these guys are either AFCs, or gay. Which means that they are no threat, and provide a setting that allows you showcase your bad alpha-self. These friends are typicaly also much cooler to hang out with than a girlfriend's female friends. Let's see Sex and the City marathon or chilling down at a sport's bar catching the game? Which of these appeals to you?

A more important note is that most women love men who aren't jealous. They can't stand it! Just believe that your the best man for her, you have already come through the tunnel and you are in for as long as you want to be. If she is going way, and I mean way out of her way to make you jealous GET THE F OUT OF THERE. Run for the hinterlands, call your best wingman and reserve girls and stay in this bunker. Don't come out until the dust has settled, been kicked up again and resettled. These might be the girls others are reffering, but that's a rather harsh philsophy to place on all chicks with lots of guy friends.