GF got pissed because i let her do whatever she wants

[Arthy]

Not asking for advice, just wanted to share this and show how "logical" girls can be.

Im in a relationship with this girl for almost 6 months, she's 18 years old HB9.
Since i live in the small town, pretty girls are rare. I can't even think of one hb 10, so she's getting an enormous amount of attention from other guys.
She gave me her fb account "for me to check on her" even tho i never asked for it nor showed that i care.
She throws lots of those jealosy **** tests all the time and i never fail them, thanks to sosuave.

We went for drinks today, she asked me if i "allow" her to go to the club with her
girl friend and some guys (who are afcs as the 96% of male community in my place) I replied saying that's she's allowed to do whatever she wants without asking me. She got pissed and said "you don't care about me" and "all my friends have boyfriends who doesn't let them do stuff yada yada".
Wanted to laugh my ass off, but i stayed calm and told her to Shut up.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Women crave for a man to set boundaries for them. They find this hugely attractive, even if they complain about it at first.

The best thing a man can do to increase her attraction is to lay down the law and let her know the parameters of the relationship and what is permissible and what isn't.

This is entirely counterintuitive to most men. They think that setting rules will chase her away when in fact just the opposite is true. The trick is to never use the word, "rules". Call them anything else, and she'll be like those cartoon characters who fall in love and those little hearts go flying out around their heads. The little hearts are flying, the birds are chirping and the violins are playing in her mind because she finally met a MAN who sets her boundaries and enforces them.

The woman is the ocean and the man is the rocky shore. Left unchecked, she will spread out and dissipate into infinity. Contained by you, she is a quantifiable entity who appreciates being given substance.

 

[Dgwizdal]

Women crave for a man to set boundaries for them. They find this hugely attractive, even if they complain about it at first.

The best thing a man can do to increase her attraction is to lay down the law and let her know the parameters of the relationship and what is permissible and what isn't.

This is entirely counterintuitive to most men. They think that setting rules will chase her away when in fact just the opposite is true. The trick is to never use the word, "rules". Call them anything else, and she'll be like those cartoon characters who fall in love and those little hearts go flying out around their heads. The little hearts are flying, the birds are chirping and the violins are playing in her mind because she finally met a MAN who sets her boundaries and enforces them.

The woman is the ocean and the man is the rocky shore. Left unchecked, she will spread out and dissipate into infinity. Contained by you, she is a quantifiable entity who appreciates being given substance.

I DO agree with this concept in 90% of situations but I believe this is the exception...

Wouldn't it come off as insecure and needy if he was like "F*ck that I don't want you going out with any guys"...

To me that sounds like it's insecurity which is what she was expecting. Although she through a hissy fit bc her hamster was running wild from the lack of f*cks given - he maintained his cool and portrayed his confidence within himself to her by knowing the other the other guys ain't got sh*t on him. I'm sure gina tingles ensued...

One of the basic principles in jealousy sh*t tests is to keep your cool and remained unfazed. UNLESS she is way out of line and/or blatantly disrespectful - then you check the sh*t out of her. This was not one of those situations...


Considering the above - why would he need to check her?



On a side note - her interest level is very high - you are clearly not a doormat who needs to regain ground by putting her in her place - it's almost as if she asked you about "allowing" her so that she could receive some kind of validation from you. I think you played it right.... For now

CAUTION - She is ramping up her game though - She is trying to get a reaction from you. She needs to know that you are that cool confident guy that will put her in her place should she cross the line. That time is coming soon...

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

The chick wants a leader. A man that's going to lead the relationship and give boundaries. So go ahead and let her know that you do have boundaries. She can do whatever she wants but if she crosses the boundaries then you are a man of your word and won't even tolerate being with her.

 

[HyperAnalyze]

I agree with AtomSmasher,

give her freedom but set the boundaries.

Girl: IS it okay if I go to the club with some girlfriends?
You: Sure, but if you end up fooling with any guys at the club, you can be sure this relationship ends.

 

[In2theGame]

IMO, I have dealt with so many women (very beautiful as well) and i used to think that if i spoke my mind about something i had a problem with, then it would make me look "weak" and "insecure" and "needy" but as i have learned... Thats for pvssys and women dont respect that one bit. If she is your Woman or a girl your fvcking with and she does or says something you have a problem with then as a man you show her who has the balls and king kong c0ck to let her know what you approve of as the MAN.

Woman want to be put in their place and the HB9+ WANT to know they have a manly man not a weak little phaggit that keeps his mouth shut. As a Man, embrace your masculine traits that is dominance over the submissive weaker sex (female). Thats why i believe many of todays men are walked on and treated like sh*t by women because guys are believing that they shouldnt show dominance, instead approve of EVERYTHING for fear of looking "insecure". All those words used by women like "Insecure" "Controlling" "Aggressive" etc is bvll****. Why is a man insecure? because he calls her on her sh*t when shes going to a sausage fest a.k.a club? Should he just stay quiet and say "ok babe" with a smile? Fvck outta here with that. If you really dont give a sh*t then thats fine but then it shouldnt be a problem if she "accidentally gets groped up". Maybe i have so much testosterone running through my body lol but I'd be f*ckin damned if a girl was going to do or say something that makes me feel disrespected or taken for a sucker.

Just one example ill give is the HB9 i was with last winter, She tried testing me few times, even in front of her friends. Sure she had huge natural tits, nice ass, blue eyes, blonde hair and just all out sexy but if she even put her toe over the line i would call her out on it. Strangely enough she would get all upset but horny from me speaking up and showing dominance. This was so in the beginning of time and will be till the end of time. Man will always be the dominant one over the naturally submissive sex, Woman. God made it that way and thats the way it stays.

So to the OP, She wants to see your Masculine side and dominate over her. She WANTS to be put in her place and claimed. She wants to know that you keep her in check a.k.a letting her know you care that shes YOUR girl and no one else. At first she will fuss about it but then after a while she will think your soft. If she goes out and other guys are trying to get with her, she wants to think "No thanks, My man will chew me up if i messed around on him". Set the Boundaries.

 

[Don_Dom]

I have a suggestion but not sure it's appropriate for this forum.

 

[Don_Dom]

Actually, I will say this...You may have a true submissive on your hands. Modern women don't point blank tell you they want you to set boundaries or "let" them do anything unless that's exactly what they want you to do. Be aware, it can be work and there is responsibility involved but you should take it as a complement, because it is. She not only wants you to do it, she also thinks you are worthy of doing it. In my book you have a winner, and much respect to you, sir, for bringing it out of a young woman. And a hot one, no less.

Be warned, however, if you don't step up she will mist likely find someone who will. Girls like this genuinely need it to feel cared for.

 

[Arthy]

Thanks for your thoughts. Of course there are boundaries, i don't even have to mention them, since she is the one who asked for exclusive relationship and she knows that if i caught her crossing them (aka cheating), she would be history, i wouldn't think twice.

IMO, I have dealt with so many women (very beautiful as well) and i used to think that if i spoke my mind about something i had a problem with, then it would make me look "weak" and "insecure" and "needy" but as i have learned... Thats for pvssys and women dont respect that one bit. If she is your Woman or a girl your fvcking with and she does or says something you have a problem with then as a man you show her who has the balls and king kong c0ck to let her know what you approve of as the MAN.

Woman want to be put in their place and the HB9+ WANT to know they have a manly man not a weak little phaggit that keeps his mouth shut. As a Man, embrace your masculine traits that is dominance over the submissive weaker sex (female). Thats why i believe many of todays men are walked on and treated like sh*t by women because guys are believing that they shouldnt show dominance, instead approve of EVERYTHING for fear of looking "insecure". All those words used by women like "Insecure" "Controlling" "Aggressive" etc is bvll****. Why is a man insecure? because he calls her on her sh*t when shes going to a sausage fest a.k.a club? Should he just stay quiet and say "ok babe" with a smile? Fvck outta here with that. If you really dont give a sh*t then thats fine but then it shouldnt be a problem if she "accidentally gets groped up". Maybe i have so much testosterone running through my body lol but I'd be f*ckin damned if a girl was going to do or say something that makes me feel disrespected or taken for a sucker.

Just one example ill give is the HB9 i was with last winter, She tried testing me few times, even in front of her friends. Sure she had huge natural tits, nice ass, blue eyes, blonde hair and just all out sexy but if she even put her toe over the line i would call her out on it. Strangely enough she would get all upset but horny from me speaking up and showing dominance. This was so in the beginning of time and will be till the end of time. Man will always be the dominant one over the naturally submissive sex, Woman. God made it that way and thats the way it stays.

So to the OP, She wants to see your Masculine side and dominate over her. She WANTS to be put in her place and claimed. She wants to know that you keep her in check a.k.a letting her know you care that shes YOUR girl and no one else. At first she will fuss about it but then after a while she will think your soft. If she goes out and other guys are trying to get with her, she wants to think "No thanks, My man will chew me up if i messed around on him". Set the Boundaries.

I understand what you are saying. I never had to speak my mind, she never disrespected me nor did something that crossed the line. I do raise my voice sometimes when she does stuff that are anoying and i always try to act calm since i have a bit of a problem with controling my anger.

 

[Arthy]

double post

 

[jay07]

I had the same thing once. Ex would always sh1t test like this. And i really didnt care and id say it. "Do what you want idgaf". Shed cry about how i didnt care ever. How she wanted me to give a ****. She was probably the only one who didnt act scantless. And i believe its cause i didnt care.

The rest of my exes where i told them i cared and didnt want them going out w. 20 dudes all had relationship issues with.

My .02

 

[Night-hawk]

Tell her she's a cvnt.

 

[gravityeyelids]

Tell her she's a cvnt.

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