Getting ridiculous, need some help

[Fascist cookie]

I've never really cared that much about getting a girl, or anything along those manners, but now I'm fresh into college and it's nagging the hell out of me. In a way I'm happy that I finally give a damn about what goes on in the outside world, but there's one little caveat, I'm clueless haha. It's not that, I have friends who are girls I just don't know how to escalate it, oh no, I literally (and I say this with no pride whatsoever) have held a conversation with an attractive woman maybe like 4 or 5 times. I was always that kid who kept the really close circle of friends, and really didn't expand in his high school career, sure I did notice that people would leave me signs to like sit and talk to them, or talk to me after a cross country or track meet but I could never do it. Example, I was walking down to leave school a few days ago, and one of the student secretaries that works there (who I have had my eye on) sees me walking down, we make eye contact and she smiles and waves to me, so what do I do being the amazing suave James Bond I am, just smile and walk out the door *facepalm*. Any help on how to kick my ass into shape would be greatly appreciated, thanks.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

If you always seem like you're going some place, that could actually work to your advantage...but you gotta have a cool demeanor and some good conversation skills and also have the balls to follow through if anyone catches your eye.

There's a big difference between "having things to do" and being "too awkward to stay and chat".

 

[Alex DeLarge]

* Read the DJ Bible
* Get over your approach anxiety. Don't look at women as "Wow she's really hot!" Look at them as "Wow that girl looks interesting, I'm gonna go have a conversation with her."

Think about the amount of times you have been struck up in conversation on a casual or formal platonic level (whether it be in work, or in a social setting). If the person says weird or ignorant things, it's probably not going to be a great conversation (unless there's humor involved). But if you just have a good conversation on a topic of similar interest, the girl WILL converse and she will ENJOY it. Don't let a woman's "hotness" be a big brick wall for a good conversation. Believe it or not, these hot girls like to talk about things other than their nails and make up! (educated ones at least).

Just talk about things that interest you to other people. Man or woman. Last night I was at a party chatting up this HB9 redhead about the social dynamics of a party and the biology of it all. Meanwhile the conversation had an undertone toward a subtle sexual energy.

Example:

Me: "It's pretty funny to look around this party at people interacting and take into your head that we're all just animals. Look over here (kino with arm around her back with head directed toward where I'm telling her to look). Those three guys are doing goofy dances, and who's in the middle? A girl! Those three guys are sexually competing for her right now, but they don't even realize it. They're just having fun, but subconsciously they want to get it on with her. It's funny how this happens at all parties."

See what I did here? I was just having a conversation about something that interests me (social dynamics as well as biology) but by explaining the situation to her, I was giving her a subtle hint that I find her sexy ("Subconsciously they want to get it on with her because they're interacting with her, funny how these kinds of things happen at parties").

I wound up getting her number, but didn't carry anything past that for the evening because I was hammered drunk and my sober friend driving my car wanted to leave lol.

Also take into consideration, I didn't plan any of this out. It just happened naturally. Be honest with your intentions in conversation and it will naturally build sexually.

Hope this helped. You're taking a step in the right direction by joining this board. I suggest you also read up on some "inner game" stuff. Just search it in google in your free time.