Getting over oneitis

[Konada]

Lately I've been feeling very conflict as to whether I did the right thing, buyer's remorse as you called it. I told myself I had enough of having myself emotionally attached to a girl who wouldn't give a flying fvck about me. So I to delete her from my mobile, whatsapp and facebook basically anything related to her.

However, due to a lack of options, the feeling of remorse keeps creeping over me. I've tried to busy myself with outings, working out, DJ bootcamp and other stuff. However, whenever I have free time on my own, this remorse haunts me again and it pains me very much to be in such conflict with myself. What can I do to rid myself of this feeling and be over her completely?

 

[JonJaper]

The magic bullet cure to all oneitis: Go for other girls.

The whole 'lack of options' thing is all in your head. The world is your oyster, there are SO MANY GIRLS OUT THERE. In school, in your neighbourhood, in the city, friends of friends of friends etc. They are hotter too.

I got over my oneitis by going to Amsterdam and f*cking HB10 hookers. I realise that might not be possible for everyone here but the same principle applies: focus on other girls, and if you can...f*ck other girls.

Focus more on the bootcamp stuff. We've only just started Week 2 remember, it's not going to be a quick-fix solution.

 

[st_99]

I think the cure to oneitis is basically maturity and experience. At some point in life you just learn to understand how this whole game works and what you can and cant control and you eventually get to the point where you just dont worry about it anymore. You learn to see things from more
of a big picture view.

 

[Mike32ct]

One thing I remind myself and other guys about is this myth....

It's called, "She's not that interested in me, but she's PERFECT for me."

It's an illusion. No matter how pretty, smart, fun, etc. she is, if she isn't interested or has low interest she isn't perfect for you. She's not right for you, not even close.

We've all been there. I've met a few that I still think about to this day... "I should still be with her. It would have been perfect."

i have to snap myself out of it. It's all in my head.

What you are going through is completely normal. But remember that you cut her loose for a reason. Her interest level was low.

 

[Serg897]

Any true DJ with the right mindset knows that women are easily replaceable. For every woman with low interest there are countless potentials with high interest waiting to meet you. Getting over oneitis takes time and simply continuing with your life. You did the right thing - go meet more women.

 

[Jariel]

I'm in the process of overcoming oneitis at the moment. I honestly believed I'd found someone special and all indications suggested she felt the same, then out of nowhere I got rejected.

Part of me was tempted to try and find an explanation and then try to work things out, try to say the right thing to change her mind. But I know from past experience this never works. It just keeps that futile hope alive, keeps her on your mind and prolongs the agony.

Accepting that it's over is the best way to break free from oneitis and move forward. It's difficult to let go, but once you do it gets easier as time goes by. It's been a week since my rejection and I'm already feeling a lot more positive and getting back in the game.