Ok guys maybe you can help me with this problem I'm having. I'll make it a bit juicy so you'll have something to laugh 
Basically, my problem is I'm clumsy.
For example. I'm cooking a meal, doing 3 things at a time right... rice boiling, veggies boiling, some meat too. Then I taste some of the rice to see if it's allright, ofcourse the pan is hot so I use something to cover my fingers. The rice is almost overdone so I think damn, have to drain that water soon. So without thinking I grab the pan again, OUCH!! this time without covering my hands. Then I start draining, and while doing this I almost drop the pan too. Then I figure out that the meat is going quite hard and I have to turn it before it burns, so I put down the rice, turn the meat and ofcourse make a nice stain on my shirt from grease that goes all over the place. Anyway, it all works out and moments later I'm putting my nice home cooked meal onto my plate. Ofcourse after I sit down to eat I have to walk back to the kitchen 3 times because I forgot the sauce.. then the cutlery.. and finally my food which I brought back into the kitchen when I went to get the cutlery.
Another example. Some weeks ago I was fixing my sink. I took out some of the plumbing and at some point found out I needed to go to the store to get some extra parts. Since I was planning to do this later, I thought I'd first clean up some of the mess I made - so I put some water in a bucket and cleaned. And then - genius that I am - I proceeded to throw away the water. In the sink. Which had no plumbing. SPLASH. Ofcourse, there were people watching. So, I smack myself in the head and laugh with them, and use a cloth to get the water back into the bucket. Which I then empty... into the sink. I'm not kidding.
Man, and this stuff just happens -all- the time. I've thought about it a lot and I think somehow I have trouble figuring out what the consequences of my actions will be. I will easily drill a hole in something that's laying on my floor and not think about the fact that this will put a hole in my floor too until after I've made a couple of nice holes in my used-to-be pretty wooden floor. Ofcourse after realizing that I have trouble with these cause-effect chains I started to pay attention to them, and the strange thing is it doesn't help! Even if I try to think over all the consequences, I always miss an obvious one - usually the most destructive. I still do the weirdest things that leave everyone laughing.
As a bit of background info, I always used to be the shy introverted type but since a few years I've grown tired of it (the stories I could tell about how I related to girls.. would make you cry with laughter, and they make me cringe now that I know better) and I've read lots of books and online material about gaining confidence, getting over shyness etc. I've actually gotten infinitely better to the point where I can walk with my head high and my shoulders held broad, I can talk to strangers and look people in the eyes (the effects this has on people are amazing), and even smile, so I felt really good about myself for a while there. Right now however I keep running into situations that make me realize I'm not there yet - there's a couple of things that I will definitely need to fix, and my clumsiness is a big one. It totally messes with your self esteem if people are laughing at you all the time. I'd laugh with them if it were an occasional thing, but this is just not funny.
So all you DJs out there, if you have any tips for me on how to get over this I'd love to hear them. Thanks guys!!
Basically, my problem is I'm clumsy.
For example. I'm cooking a meal, doing 3 things at a time right... rice boiling, veggies boiling, some meat too. Then I taste some of the rice to see if it's allright, ofcourse the pan is hot so I use something to cover my fingers. The rice is almost overdone so I think damn, have to drain that water soon. So without thinking I grab the pan again, OUCH!! this time without covering my hands. Then I start draining, and while doing this I almost drop the pan too. Then I figure out that the meat is going quite hard and I have to turn it before it burns, so I put down the rice, turn the meat and ofcourse make a nice stain on my shirt from grease that goes all over the place. Anyway, it all works out and moments later I'm putting my nice home cooked meal onto my plate. Ofcourse after I sit down to eat I have to walk back to the kitchen 3 times because I forgot the sauce.. then the cutlery.. and finally my food which I brought back into the kitchen when I went to get the cutlery.
Another example. Some weeks ago I was fixing my sink. I took out some of the plumbing and at some point found out I needed to go to the store to get some extra parts. Since I was planning to do this later, I thought I'd first clean up some of the mess I made - so I put some water in a bucket and cleaned. And then - genius that I am - I proceeded to throw away the water. In the sink. Which had no plumbing. SPLASH. Ofcourse, there were people watching. So, I smack myself in the head and laugh with them, and use a cloth to get the water back into the bucket. Which I then empty... into the sink. I'm not kidding.
Man, and this stuff just happens -all- the time. I've thought about it a lot and I think somehow I have trouble figuring out what the consequences of my actions will be. I will easily drill a hole in something that's laying on my floor and not think about the fact that this will put a hole in my floor too until after I've made a couple of nice holes in my used-to-be pretty wooden floor. Ofcourse after realizing that I have trouble with these cause-effect chains I started to pay attention to them, and the strange thing is it doesn't help! Even if I try to think over all the consequences, I always miss an obvious one - usually the most destructive. I still do the weirdest things that leave everyone laughing.
As a bit of background info, I always used to be the shy introverted type but since a few years I've grown tired of it (the stories I could tell about how I related to girls.. would make you cry with laughter, and they make me cringe now that I know better) and I've read lots of books and online material about gaining confidence, getting over shyness etc. I've actually gotten infinitely better to the point where I can walk with my head high and my shoulders held broad, I can talk to strangers and look people in the eyes (the effects this has on people are amazing), and even smile, so I felt really good about myself for a while there. Right now however I keep running into situations that make me realize I'm not there yet - there's a couple of things that I will definitely need to fix, and my clumsiness is a big one. It totally messes with your self esteem if people are laughing at you all the time. I'd laugh with them if it were an occasional thing, but this is just not funny.
So all you DJs out there, if you have any tips for me on how to get over this I'd love to hear them. Thanks guys!!
