"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Getting over a Oneitis

johnmich

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I was jus thinkin, my oneitis from f*ckin ages ago - and i mean a long time ago - is still kinda my oneitis. If ever i see her or talk to her again it brings up the same feeling for a while after.
My truthful suggestion (which im gonna do) is just avoid them - not hide when you see em or move away, but just dont bother with them.
When you bump into them, just dont bother and if for example theyre on MSN or AIM dont start talkin to them.
Just cut them out of your lives which i hope will help you sort yourself out a bit.

In my head this sounded better but i cant be arsed typing a lot, and i cant be bothered to go in depth with my thoughts, but just give it a go.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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coolguy676767

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yeah I have the same deal with some oneitis girl's I dad before I made the jump from an AFC. Its going to be inevitable when you get oneitis with girls from your close social circle, or with girls at school in my case. However this problem never starts nor comes back with girls you meet in stores, on the street, or in a club.
 

So pimp its scary

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This is one of those cases where it matters only if it matters to you.

I don't typically talk to my past oneitis's, but I've hooked up with a couple of the girls that I used to crush on... some of them I've had to cut from my life, and others are still good friends...
 
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