"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Getting into martial arts. Anyone with experience?

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LiveFreeX said:
I'm not talking about that kind of wrestling. Pro wrestling is dangerous for a fake sport. I'm talking about amateur wrestling (for lack of a better term) that guys do in school.

Aikido will make you an excellent fighter, have you done any aikido FairShake? Joint locks are 1000x better than punching/kicking. Anyone can throw a punch, not everyone can take a punch and turn it into an arm breaking situation. The Katas are also very physically intensive.
I have never trained Aikido. Several aikido practicioners have moved over to Judo and practiced where I used to. We rolled many times. They had some very cool wristlocks to show me. But they were never able to pull them off in randori. Believe me they tried. Everytime they would show me a wristlock the move began with "Now you have to put your hand here first. No move it up a little" or something like that. That doesn't speak well of it's usefulness that you need your attacker to cooperate with you in order for it to work best. That's perhaps the one thing you do not have in a fight.

The aikido guys did, however, have outstanding leverage and balance. I think that's something that aikido teaches very well. All of these guys eventually became very good judo players.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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MidnightCity said:
this popped up on my news feed just now: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rCmucAiUXi4

the guy looks like he has years of training in him. his footwork was very good. good lateral movement, was off balance once at 1:04 and the takedown was smooth
The black guy moves like an athlete. The white guy moves like a regular dude.

I'd put my money on an non-martial artist athlete over a non-athletic martial artist. There are MANY non-athletes in the Martial arts...myself included. I'm pretty strong and in decent shape on a bike but, despite years of basketball, cycling, and martial arts, I'm clumsy, slow, and gas easily when playing a sport or sparring. A football player with no fight training would probably hand me my ass if the fight went too long.

Being fit and agile go a LONG way.
 
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