isn't really that much of a problem for me but I always seem to sabotage opportunities with attractive females I'd not only like to have sex with but would like to date. In the beginning, I come across as somewhat charming and have a decent sense of humor and enthusiasm but I often run into excuses later on as to why "I'm not their type" or something along those lines even though sometimes I meet these girls and they are all over me and seem highly interested in talking more. Some of them have the vibe that they would date me and we have good conversation, make out, etc. but usually it's a one time deal and I never get to see them again, which is really disappointing. It makes me wonder if I'm doing something subtle that I'm not conscious of that the girl is picking up on and getting turned off by.
I met up with a girl recently and we had a great time, made out, were very sensual with each other but didn't go all the way. I was convinced by the vibe she was giving me that she wanted to hang out again but much to my dismay, when I called her the next day to say Hi, she started in by saying that she didn't think I was her type and that there was just something about me that she didn't feel we connected enough but she couldn't tell me what it was.
Another example is this really gorgeous, intelligent girl I met on myspace....I intrigued her by my genuine interest and had a conversation on instant messenger. She was very open and complimentary saying that I was,"very bold, obviously intelligent, eager to learn, and a cutie", which isn't something I'm used to coming from a really hot chick. Since then though we've only sent a few messages back and forth and she said she just wanted to talk online for now until we got to know each other better. But the other day I sent her a myspace message saying it would be fun to make some beautiful music with her (she's plays multiple instruments) and she could enchant me some more with her profound beauty. I added that "I could also put a spell on you with my profound booty shaking skills", which maybe sounds a little over the top....but it's the same humor I was using when I talked to her before and she was laughing. I didn't want to sound TOO serious. But she didn't respond and she also didn't respond when I im'd her yesterday (she put her away msg. up).
I'm 25 and she's 19 but I can tell she's a really amazing girl. Most of the attractive females I've been with have been older women but now I want to connect with someone my age or younger. I don't know if I can repair this situation at all but I'm so sick and tired of sabotaging golden chances like this. It sucks to really engage them and get them interested only to **** up my saying things that are too over the top or trying too hard or whatever it is I'm doing. How do I strike a fine balance? I always feel like I go too far with everything I say, thinking I'm being funny/seductive but then suddenly the person stops talking. It's just that I feel if I'm not a little amusing or don't say enough then I will perceived as boring, hence NO ATTRACTION. What do you guys think is the problem here? How should I change the way I talk to these girls? because it seems like I'm good at drawing them in but then I'm equally good at turning them off.
I met up with a girl recently and we had a great time, made out, were very sensual with each other but didn't go all the way. I was convinced by the vibe she was giving me that she wanted to hang out again but much to my dismay, when I called her the next day to say Hi, she started in by saying that she didn't think I was her type and that there was just something about me that she didn't feel we connected enough but she couldn't tell me what it was.
Another example is this really gorgeous, intelligent girl I met on myspace....I intrigued her by my genuine interest and had a conversation on instant messenger. She was very open and complimentary saying that I was,"very bold, obviously intelligent, eager to learn, and a cutie", which isn't something I'm used to coming from a really hot chick. Since then though we've only sent a few messages back and forth and she said she just wanted to talk online for now until we got to know each other better. But the other day I sent her a myspace message saying it would be fun to make some beautiful music with her (she's plays multiple instruments) and she could enchant me some more with her profound beauty. I added that "I could also put a spell on you with my profound booty shaking skills", which maybe sounds a little over the top....but it's the same humor I was using when I talked to her before and she was laughing. I didn't want to sound TOO serious. But she didn't respond and she also didn't respond when I im'd her yesterday (she put her away msg. up).
I'm 25 and she's 19 but I can tell she's a really amazing girl. Most of the attractive females I've been with have been older women but now I want to connect with someone my age or younger. I don't know if I can repair this situation at all but I'm so sick and tired of sabotaging golden chances like this. It sucks to really engage them and get them interested only to **** up my saying things that are too over the top or trying too hard or whatever it is I'm doing. How do I strike a fine balance? I always feel like I go too far with everything I say, thinking I'm being funny/seductive but then suddenly the person stops talking. It's just that I feel if I'm not a little amusing or don't say enough then I will perceived as boring, hence NO ATTRACTION. What do you guys think is the problem here? How should I change the way I talk to these girls? because it seems like I'm good at drawing them in but then I'm equally good at turning them off.