"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Gettin back in the game

DongWong

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Hey guys, I'm new here. I just want to introduce myself, I'm DongWong. I've been out of the game for about 3 years, and I was in college and now I'm out. I was inactive during college because I was dating this girl, she made everything easier. I wasn't heavily into pickup before or was kind of unaware of it and everything happened naturally. I was approached by this girl and we started hanging out and then became fwb. However, she didn't tell me that she had a bf who was back in her hometown and I found out later after she confessed, then she joined a sorority and then my dryspell journey began. Before this, I made some approaches at the bar in the town I was living at during college, however there weren't any chicks that caught my eye, mostly old Cougars who were obese/overweight and were like 3's and 4's. Anyways, fast forward to the present in my hometown, I approached this lady at a Mexican restaurant, I thought she was giving me eye contact, wasn't sure exactly because she kept turning around and looking my direction. I approached, made small talk, I asked for her number and she gave me her business card(she's a stylist). I made sure to let her know my intentions and told her that I thought she was cute and she put herself together well, and then I left. It was pretty hard to approach after a while, especially when approaching a girl when she is with her friend. Anyways that's just a little intro about myself. Any comments or advice is welcomed!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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