"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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GetReady's Approach Journal

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I am formerly Getready but I have a new email so I changed my username.

This is my approach journal. I figured writing everything down will help me to progress. This is more for me than for the forum but anything you want to add is welcomed.

A little about me:

I tried the boot camp but I failed in the first week- I couldn't get 50 hi's. I have approach anxiety. I am currently a freshman at a prestigious university. The pickings are fairly slim here in terms of cute, non-feminist girls. I typically go for sports girls. I have had limited success here. I have probably made out with 10+ girls here but I have not had sex with any of them. I have f*cked 4 girls total in life. 1 girl was a long term relationship. This girl was totally in love with me and still is.

For the most part girls think I am very good looking. My problems with girls are that I am bad at talking with them (pretty much the most important part). I am average in day game. The only girl I have been able to get to my room )(fingered her thats it) this year was a girl I pulled right out of one of my classes. I have been rejected tons of times trying night game. Club game is very difficult.

Recently I hooked up with a girl at the club that I met at lunch last week. I also hooked up with a couple average looking girls just for the hell of it at the club another day. I have been meeting a lot of girls lately during the day but I have been hesitant on getting their numbers. Last night I was drunk and gave my number to a girl that I had met before (my phone was dead). Pretty doubtful that she will text me.


Tonight I was at a bar that usually only seniors go to. I approached two girls. One girl I opened with "I like your shirt" (i had caught this girl checking me out). I tried to talk to her for a while but it got boring quick. I don't really know what to say to girls when the music is super loud and were out at a crowded bar. Small talk doesn't work. She got bored and walked away. The second girl I just said "hi whats your name" or something. Talked to her about the same amount of time as the first girl. I ran out of things to say as I was just talking small talk like where are you from and what not. She walked away too. I didn't take this very hard as I have been rejected enough in bars and clubs to stop caring.

Anyway I will try to update this every day. Give me any feedback you want. I am so sick of not achieving what I want I just feel like my time is fading away every minute I don't do something about it.


Things to look forward to: This Hb 7 from class seems really into me. I opened her in class then joked with her when I saw her later "are you stalking me?" and she seems receptive. Next time I will get her number. Also my peer adviser (sort of like a big brother big sister you are assigned) is throwing me major IOIs. She's an HB 7.5 and would be a huge win because she is a junior and I'm a freshman and she's my adviser. I have a quasi-date with her tomorrow so we will see how that goes. Tonight she was all over me for a little bit then faded away. I'll keep yall posted.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Figured out my old account password.

Anyways today I was doing things all day so didn't talk to any girls. That girl that is my peer adviser changed the time that we were supposed to get food from 6 to 9. This isn't a date as the 3 or 4 other students in the group are coming. However I have been seeing this girl out at night as she is good friends with my good friends. When we're out she flirts with me alot comes up to talk to me ect. I had been joking that she was obligated to by me dinner. Here's the text exchange from today:

Her:

"Hey Getready. Can you make it to an advisee dinner at the cafeteria tonight?"


Me: (1 hr later)

"Seems like a weak place to take a guy on a date"

Her: (like 20 seconds later)

"Haha right"

Her: ( 1 hr later)

"Ok dinning hall at 6 you better be there"


During the dinner I wasn't really on my game. I think I came off as too ****y (someone was saying "oh you got into that bar? do you have a fake" I responded "yea.. and I'm really charming". The other people in my advisory are the studying type so I can't really joke with them the way I normally would.

The end of the meal comes and she says ok see you later. I say wait aren't you going to take me out for dessert? She says no, sorta with a smile but not all that flirty. I say "but those were the conditions that I come to your dinner" . Shes still hesitant so I say alright but you owe me dessert and walk away.

I think that I could've gotten with her if I had pushed it/ just walked her out of the place and not take no as an answer. I'm guessing she wants me to be aggressive due to her being a couple of years older than me. I also think I should have made a move earlier this week when we were out together.


Ok so in retrospect I need to be more aggressive/ assertive with girls.
 

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Ok so its been about 4 days since the last post.


On tuesday I sat next to the girl Ive been gaming. Joked around a little. Beat her in tic tac toe. At the end of class I say "So you going out tomorrow night? (thats the night everyone goes out)". She says no because she has 6 am practice. I say "well give me your number anyway". Got the number.


Here's the exchange from today which is the first time I have texted her.

Me :

You should skip class

Her:

I know I'm falling asleep already

Me:
So do it

Her:

Fall asleep or skip class? haha

Me:

Well either but i think you will have more fun skipping (im in her class so she knows i also skipped)

Her:

Hmm well what you doing?

Me:

Enjoying life


Her:

Lucky you! Well if I wasn't in class I would be doing homework so its a lose lose haha

Me: ( a bit later, I can tell Im not going to be able to get her to skip class and come to my room)

I always knew you were a nerd


Her:

Yaa right. I havent even started it yet):

Me: ( a bit later)

Ok fine you got me I will help you with your homework. 9 at my place works

Her:

Wait really you already finished it??

Me:

Should by then

Her:

Ohh my god that would be great! Idk how to do a lot of it anyways ha

Me:

Ok see you at 9


Her:

Ill be there!




I think the text game was pretty good what do you guys think?

In other news I saw the girl who I gave my number to while drunk. I said "didn't I give you my number"
"yea you did you were really drunk haha"
"So why didn't you call me"
"Because you were wasted haha"
"Doesn't mean I didn't mean it"

I said this as I was walking past her. 5 minutes later she gave me a call. Not bad.

I'm working out everyday now and feeling real good. Gonna try to keep it up. still there was 2 or 3 girls that I have talked to that I should have gotten numbers from but didn't
 
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