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anyone know if you can buy tony buzan books at your local bookstore(chapters) or do you have to order online?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Gav's Guide to Motivation (includes help with studying)
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Quick Update
Four years on, here's a quick update and a nice bump.
Ended up getting myself a really good law degree and a job at one of the best law firms in the country, even managed to get my dissertation published.
I still believe in what I said 4 years ago about long term pleasure; in fact I applied that reasoning when I split up with my 3 year LTR earlier this year - short term pain from the break up but in the long term I'd have much more motivation to improve myself.
One new thing I've been focussing on though - beating the competition, which I don't think I mentioned in my first post. I went through my honours courses at uni with a mindset that there was very strong competition (and there was) and that I was going to beat every single student there. Especially right before exams, I walked up the stairs to the exam hall pumped up, knowing that I was going to excel beyond everyone else.
Got myself top of the class in one of the hardest subjects and close in the others - it's like pook said, Aim for the moon, if you miss at least you'll be among the stars.
Anyways, I'm going back to choke down some more whey before getting stuck into more 18 year old dirties tonight
All the best
Gav x
Four years on, here's a quick update and a nice bump.
Ended up getting myself a really good law degree and a job at one of the best law firms in the country, even managed to get my dissertation published.
I still believe in what I said 4 years ago about long term pleasure; in fact I applied that reasoning when I split up with my 3 year LTR earlier this year - short term pain from the break up but in the long term I'd have much more motivation to improve myself.
One new thing I've been focussing on though - beating the competition, which I don't think I mentioned in my first post. I went through my honours courses at uni with a mindset that there was very strong competition (and there was) and that I was going to beat every single student there. Especially right before exams, I walked up the stairs to the exam hall pumped up, knowing that I was going to excel beyond everyone else.
Got myself top of the class in one of the hardest subjects and close in the others - it's like pook said, Aim for the moon, if you miss at least you'll be among the stars.
Anyways, I'm going back to choke down some more whey before getting stuck into more 18 year old dirties tonight
All the best
Gav x