Gather around young ones..

[Radar1234]

Hello fellow Don Juans!

A lot has happened since i last posted thanks to your advice i got laid like no tomorrow! However as i know grow older I realize i want something deeper and here is now my predicament…

i recently started to date this girl i have known as a friend for a few years. In the past shes been flirty with me sitting on my lap dragging me around and making it a point to show people but i just was not interested at that time and over time we dated people etc..

To cut a long story short when it comes to establish a long term relationship i have much to learn. Im so used to getting girls that when i put pressure on my self to start dating for real long term is she the one..long story i ****ed up there i built this non existent narrative. We went on a third date i was ****ing anxious but i could feel something was slightly off. She left without saying goodbye but texted me that our mutual friend wasnt feeling good sorry and that she loved me so much see you soon!

the next day i just had a feeling i came off to strong, that she will panic just call it an instinct..sure enough she texts that she felt uncomfortable last night she didnt see me romantically and lets just be friends

i politely said that i apologize if i at any point made her feel uncomfortable that i appreciate our friendship and i will see you around basically saying i aint going to be young friend

she later texted that i shouldnt take it to that extreme thank you for the apology that she values me and that we should still remain friends

i didnt reply i aint no ones second choice

anyways two days pass by i really didnt expect to hear from her again she texted me

are we really not going to be friends now?

now the next day

I’m really disappointed at how you’re treating this.. Being friends, I should be able to let you know if something bothers me and we can acknowledge it and move forward. It doesn’t need to be friendship ending and I shouldn’t feel like I can’t tell you if something makes me uncomfortable just for the sake of keeping the friendship. You are important to me and I like being able to support you and I don’t think that needs to change because of one night?


Anyways honestly in just thinking continuing no contact, what do you all say?

 

[Radar1234]

Let me add last year she is coming off a physical abuse relationship

and also there is some history with me and her younger sister about 2 years ago we had gone on a few dates talked etc but long distance just fizzled out on its own i dont think she knows her sister mentioned in the past about being hesitant to post because of her sister looking back i wish i asked what she meant by that..anyways again i dont think she would have told her anything but who knows

 

[DreamAgain]

Just tell her hey no worries, just been busy have a good day.

And keep going no contact, move on to other women there is no reason to salvage this.

 

[The Duke]

Being friends with you is good for her. What do you get out of the deal? Women pull that schitt all the time. Remember the currency that gets traded? They want validation, we want sex. As friends she still gets validated, but you don't get any sechs.

 

[Cerwin Vega]

If she truly wants to be your friend, she should set you up with one of her single girlfriends.