Gaming girls at parties.

[ElStud]

Alright me and a couple friends went to this party today/tonight whatever you want to call it(Near 4AM right now) and it was pretty good. Got to meet a lot of people and there was beer and everything, even though I didn't drink anything(I want to stay sober until I'm 21). Big house, beer, drunk girls, people spending the night, it's the perfect situation for getting laid. Now, at the party I gamed this one girl who was slightly drunk and she showed a lot of interest in me.

But my biggest flaw with college game is I'm scared to game girls when they're talking to other guys. For instance, this single chick is talking to two guys WITH girlfriends and I wanted to game her, but at the same time I didn't really want to talk to the guys. I find it that I game best, when it's me 1 on 1 with a girl.

And for this reason, I really didn't approach any girls after that, because they were all talking to the other guys and sh*t and I was scared to game them infront of other guys. So basically, perfect situation for getting laid but my own fears held me back. I know that if it was one on one with just me and the girl, something might've happened but my own fears kept me from isolating.

 

[MikeYikes122]

ElStud, I don't post on this forum anymore. I just came on here to check some PMs and I noticed this thread.

This is a huge step for you, going to a party and talking up girls there. Typical college chicks don't really want to be randomly approached on campus. You're going to have very little success with that. I hope you are starting to learn that.

You'll have tons of success meeting girls in college in class, in your dorm and at parties.

As for how you should have approached this girl who was checking you out but talking to two guys who have girlfriends, you should have walked up there and just introduced yourself and asked the people what dorms they all live in, what they major in, etc.

These people are drunk, and they're there to socialize. They're buzzing from the booze and in a friendly state. Just walk up and introduce yourself. The guys are absolutely no threat at all because they have girlfriends. Even if they didn't have girlfriends, the girl was giving you eyes. When a girl gives you eyes at a party or a bar, she is choosing you. She wants you to approach her.

If a girl eyes you at a party, approach her immediately. It doesn't matter what you say, even if it's, 'Hey, my name is ElStud'. She has already chosen you, and she is interested.

 

[IWillReturnsoon]

I DonJoseCantosie, went past by daily post limit.

ElStud, I don't post on this forum anymore. I just came on here to check some PMs and I noticed this thread.

This is a huge step for you, going to a party and talking up girls there. Typical college chicks don't really want to be randomly approached on campus. You're going to have very little success with that. I hope you are starting to learn that.

I disagree here. They LOVED getting cold approached randomly genuinely, its just such a shock to them cuz most colleges guys are too afraid to and it rarely happens....just don't do that indirect crap.

I agree also in smaller schools, it'd be harder...just because of so many factors. They got classes, guys they know through a social circle their into but mine not want to ruin it, now dating a guy, classes, something can come up, etc. All this stuff can factor into it being harder to get SUPER results in an environment like this, not cuz the girls aren't into u...just that there are many factors that can prevent it.

Plus don't forget, even if the hottie likes you...a pretty insecure average b1tchy looking friend of hers can influence her and be like "Why like him? We know Jim longer. U should stick with him, not this random El stud guy". Just many things.

You'll have tons of success meeting girls in college in class, in your dorm and at parties.

As for how you should have approached this girl who was checking you out but talking to two guys who have girlfriends, you should have walked up there and just introduced yourself and asked the people what dorms they all live in, what they major in, etc.

I agree...def being social to each one of them is key.

These people are drunk, and they're there to socialize. They're buzzing from the booze and in a friendly state. Just walk up and introduce yourself. The guys are absolutely no threat at all because they have girlfriends. Even if they didn't have girlfriends, the girl was giving you eyes. When a girl gives you eyes at a party or a bar, she is choosing you. She wants you to approach her.

And if you don't go up to her, you've rejected her ;-).

If a girl eyes you at a party, approach her immediately. It doesn't matter what you say, even if it's, 'Hey, my name is ElStud'. She has already chosen you, and she is interested.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Alright me and a couple friends went to this party today/tonight whatever you want to call it(Near 4AM right now) and it was pretty good.

At least youre out of the house and not playing video games, good job.

Got to meet a lot of people and there was beer and everything, even though I didn't drink anything(I want to stay sober until I'm 21). Big house, beer, drunk girls, people spending the night, it's the perfect situation for getting laid.

Either one of two things are occuring..1) Youve NEVER ever ever been to or a party or 2) your lying (i choose the latter)
Why so much detail when its not needed???

Now, at the party I gamed this one girl who was slightly drunk and she showed a lot of interest in me.

Cool, if you can approach girls sober during the day, you can do it at a party in a relaxed situation.

 

[Aragon034]

whaaat? you didn't drink because you want to wait till you're 21?

What are you, A male nun? you're trying to get laid and you abstain from alcohol at a college party?

I agree with not getting stupid/blind/passed out drunk at a party (god i've been there) but in a relaxed and alcohol fueled social situation, its hard to keep up with them while sober unless you're utterly relaxed and perfectly comfortable around drunks.

That comfort comes from experience as to what usually happens at these kinds of parties, some rapport with teh people there... etc...

Good that you're getting out (unless this is just a fake like the above suspected and i'll admit i do as well) but you've got to get that rod out of yor ass and live a little as it's said.

Have a few beers, talk to that girl who eyed you even if she's talking to another 2 guys (especially if they have girlfriends).

 

[MikeYikes122]

I disagree here. They LOVED getting cold approached randomly genuinely, its just such a shock to them cuz most colleges guys are too afraid to and it rarely happens....just don't do that indirect crap.

I agree also in smaller schools, it'd be harder...just because of so many factors. They got classes, guys they know through a social circle their into but mine not want to ruin it, now dating a guy, classes, something can come up, etc. All this stuff can factor into it being harder to get SUPER results in an environment like this, not cuz the girls aren't into u...just that there are many factors that can prevent it.

I agree with this, but I think ElStud needs to ditch cold approaching. It clearly is not working for him.

Go to these parties, ElStud. Get to know some people, build a good group of friends and get together with a group of girls who are all friends. If you are a decent looking dude who dresses decently and you're a reasonably cool guy, I guarantee you one of these girls from your social circle will take an interest in you.

 

[ready123]

do both, keep up the cold approaching but try to work on your social circle. the most pimp guys also tend to be the coolest guys that can befriend anyone. the social skills complement each other

and you're used to gaming a girl who's alone but don't know what to do if she's in a set. so expand your comfort zone and see what happens

exercises:
- try befriending the whole group (i mean genuinely befriend)
- try befriending the guys, then the girl, and gauge her reaction
- try reading their body language to see if there's some kind of dynamic going on

anything's better than not doing sht and coming back to this board, saying you didnt do sht and getting clowned on by guys who dont even go out