"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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FWB Rules?

guitaronfire411

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Hey hey,

I met up with my ex on the 18th and we went all of the way. She said that she wanted to be FWB with me but was worried that I would want more. I said I didn't but started to get the old feelings back. I think she did too since she started to text me for the next 24 hours like we used to.

Fast forward to this week. It was her idea to meet up weekly and hang and fool around. Go ahead to Wednesday and I was supposed to swing by her place after an event and possibly mess around. She claimed a few days earlier that she couldn't mess about because of her period and then suddenly she says she was happy her period hadn't come (???).

So that was ridiculous. Then she cancels our meet up -- likely for reasons I don't want to know -- that night because she 'wasn't in the mood'.

To me, so far this FWB is pretty lame. I have been talking to other girls but seeing her in person again and then the unexpected fun sex caused me to let my guard down.

I guess I have become clingier since then and that hasn't helped. She gave me some B.S. about how she doesn't want to hangout "for now" and that (she) "i have to be in the mood to hang out" (ie. that reads having sex).

I have been trying to find a proper GF since I'm not really the FWB type but haven't had much luck since we stopped dating.

Best advice I suppose would be to spin more plates, no?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Zarky

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Of course. Just say, "Call me when you're in the mood to get naked" and then date other women. If she calls, great. If not, who gives a f*ck?
 

Scaramouche

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Dear Guitar,
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Precisely!
 
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