FWB becoming attached

[JohnChops]

So one of my plates and I decided on becoming friends with benefits , and we've been having crazy awesome sex . ITs been going on for about a month and now she keeps asking me questions like "do you care about me? " "Do you like me? " Its obvious that shes getting attached, but I never really answer the questions I just change the topic. Err how do i steer this FWB thing out of the possible relationship area and back into my FWB crazy sex stage again. OR is that not possible ?

-JohnChopts

 

[Greasy Pig]

I've found brutal honesty worked for me over the years.

One girl in particular I remember I was able to keep on my roster for about two years. She was crazy into me though and I could do no wrong in her eyes.
Whenever she started whingeing about me not committing to her, I'd just remind her I was a confirmed bachelor and just not available to her in the way she wanted.
She definitely didn't like it and occasionally she'd lose her shyt and break it off but she'd inevitably get back in touch a few weeks later and invite me over.

The thing is, you have to be prepared to lose her but stick to your principles.

 

[JohnChops]

I've found brutal honesty worked for me over the years.

One girl in particular I remember I was able to keep on my roster for about two years. She was crazy into me though and I could do no wrong in her eyes.
Whenever she started whingeing about me not committing to her, I'd just remind her I was a confirmed bachelor and just not available to her in the way she wanted.
She definitely didn't like it and occasionally she'd lose her shyt and break it off but she'd inevitably get back in touch a few weeks later and invite me over.

The thing is, you have to be prepared to lose her but stick to your principles.

honestly is the best policy . I have the same situation with this girl, anything i say/do is never wrong or bad in her eyes and her interest level is insane. Some days ill wake up with 2-4 texts in a row from her within a couple hour period.

So pretty much just tell her that I dont want a relationship, but what about the "caring question" . how would i approach that one. In essence its along the lines of her wanting to see what i think of her, so saying yes causes her to lose IL (she knows she has me ) but saying maybe keeps my mystery and saying no just sounds bad. So i guess i just answered my own question on that one.

Thanks greasy

 

[Greasy Pig]

Yep, I think you did. Keep it playful and light and mysterious.

Tell her if she keeps playing her cards right she might make it in to the inner circle.

I said this the other day to a plate (with a big grin on my face) and she seemed to be cool.
Time will tell....