Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Funeral of close friend's father.

TheLadiesMan

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I have a very good friend, knew each other since we were kids. Now we're in our 30's. He lives in Florida, I live in the midwest. His father, who was a great man, really was more an Uncle to me, just passed away recently.

I am finding it very difficult to come up with the funds to fly down there, rent a car, etc. to make it to the funeral.

I also do not like flying anymore.

If I don't make it, and other family members go in my place, it should be ok right?

I probably should find a way to go....
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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If your friend understands your lack of money situation he should be alright with it but eh if you can find some way to get there you really should go.

Wouldn't it be possible to catch a ride with your other family members or them to help you out a bit financially so you can make it?
 

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Why would another member of your family go? I think your friend would understand, I would call him and tell him. Then call him more often than you normally would, it would be good for him to have a good buddy to distract him.
 

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Wow, two death threads in a row. Sorry to hear that man. God thing you are going because you might regret it later if you hadn't.

I almost didn't make it to my own grandfathers funeral because I had just started a new business that couldn't sustain itself without me being there, but my dad offered to help out financially even though he couldn't afford it, cause he knew how close I was to my grandpa growing up. I'm definitely glad I went.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheLadiesMan said:
I got my ticket, charged it to my credit card. I got to make this trip.

if he's the kind of friend that would be there for you in a crisis, then you should be the kind of friend to be there for him.

simple as that.
 
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