Fukos journal of trying to save this relationship.

[fuko2007]

Figured i would start this journal as a way to get somethings on my mind out and maybe some insight from mature people.

Been working on my relationship with this girl ive been seeing for about 2 years. weve had our ups and downs and recently sat down and worked somethings out. Things were good up until this past sunday when she got distant. For the past two days she hasnt wanted to do anything because her job is going so badly right now and she says she has to work on somethings. Ive mad up my mind that im not going to bail on her just because she going through a bad phase. even if that means no sex for a while. But some actions she shows do upset me i.e. going by this bar for a beer and not wanting to do anything after. she did invite me to come but i declined and asked if we could after. she said she was tierd and was going to bed. I asked this morning if she would like to do something after work and i got the resonse ..its to early im dreading work today and dont even want to think that far ahead ive got to figure somethings out. Now guys my mind set is why go to a bar to think and see the same people you see at work? but its what ever just one thing that erks me.


She text a little while ago and said work going really badly trying not to shoot my mouth off. i inturn offerd her some kind words and still no reply. And she really wont tell me what exactly is going on she just says she is tierd of talking about it. But im going to hold my course and be here for her as much as i can. Will update as soon as something else happens

 

[Cremasta]

Everyone goes through a rough patch now and then. Good for you for sticking it out.

As long as it is just work that's getting her down, you've got a lot of opportunities to score yourself decent brownie points with your girl.

Right now, she will be seriously appreciative of the domestic, personal care type stuff. Easy things like:
- making breakfast,
- hanging out the washing,
- doing the vacuuming,
- letting her come home after a crap day at work to a cooked meal,
- taking her out for a few hours on the weekend somewhere without her having to help decide where you're going.
In the normal run of things, these are nice, but right now to her, they will be a godsend.

 

[fuko2007]

i wish i could do all that but i stoped staying with her. Figured she would need the space while she quote "figured some things out". I do have stuff over there and asked her if she wanted me to get it and she said no. so i guess thats a good sign?

 

[fuko2007]

So we hung out yester day. I listend to alot of complaining about work as i figured there would be. Ended up staying with her but no sex. Got up this morning and it was like any other morning got my coffe and a kiss and was out the door. No talk about doing anything later as it seems to stress her out. Guess a limited form of NC is the best thing as in dont push to dao anything or text or call. Let her decide whens best for her. Not going to say she still isnt acting somewhat distant.