"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hello So Suave Community. I come to you out of frustration, seeking aid.

You see, I call myself "The Frustrated Chump" because I am not an AFC. I am not average. I dress good, I have friends(social proof), I have read half of The Game and I know how to read some girls. But this one is hard.

I've just re-started talking to this girl I am interested in. She's seemed interested(or atleast she wants to be). I talk to her a bit over AIM and texting. But I always seem to get to land in the same spot. The conversation always short circuits and dies out. And I have no freaking idea how to recover and keep her interested. I need help.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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john paul

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Easy.
Dont talk to her as much on AIM and texting.

Set up a date and hang out wether it be just you and her or with friends because thats the only way to increase her attraction and get something done.

Its hard to increase a girls attraction over AIM and keep a normal conversation flowing.

I can talk with my girlfriend for hours but over instant messenger it dies within 10 minutes.

Try to cut texting and instant messenger out of your life.
 
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Thank you John Paul, I'll keep that in mind. But right now I just dont know. I'm probably going to next her, and move on once again. But if she tries to talk to me(doubt it), then I'll just keep it simple and dont try anything. :-\
 
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Well, I've made some improvement I have to say. I cut her out of AIM, and I only talk to her on there is when she IMs me. But then I only have the convo for like 10-10 mins before saying I gotta run.

But I'm still like a text feen. We're talking to each other, but its just pointless jibber jabber. But yet again, I have to remember she got out of a hard relationship not too long ago where she got ****in slammed. Which came to mind a couple days ago. Thats why I think she's not being really open and flirty.(Or maybe I just messed up more than once..Idk)

Edit: She's at the mall right now. And I know I could say something killer, but nothing is coming to mind.
 
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