"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Friendzoned

FG'man

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Hey guys, I've got a problem.

I'm in love with my best girl friend since some time.
At a party yesterday, we've talked a bit and something strange happened.
I got friendzoned without even confessing my love to her.
Now, I'm stuck cause every article about escaping the friendzone is made for the guys who already confessed and got dumped.

Help me, o you Don Juans!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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NorwegianDJ

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I guess the next step is to confess and get dumped and dig yourself deeper into your trench?
 

LearningSlowly

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I think you should go on facebook and start counting how many of your friends on there are female. Realize that each one of them has at least 5 female friends that you've never met, and probably more. A lot of hot ones, too.

You said you've been reading articles about this. Well I guarantee every piece of good advice on the friend zone boils down to the same two words. MOVE ON.
 

Alle_Gory

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FG'man said:
I got friendzoned without even confessing my love to her.
You didn't get friendzoned. You got rejected because she doesn't find you attractive for whatever reason.

Now, I'm stuck cause every article about escaping the friendzone is made for the guys who already confessed and got dumped.

Help me, o you Don Juans!
Well, if you were attractive you wouldn't be desperately asking for help like this. You would be more "WTF, this girl gave me the friendzone speech, **** that broad." You would simply not care. It would not phase you.
 

Zurg

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What it boils down to is this:

If you want to hook up with her, or any girl for that matter, you MUST work on yourself first. Don't go looking for some magic pill in articles, because there are NONE except that you've got to work on yourself. So here is my advice: Move on, start talking more to girls and just become more centered in your reality.

But how about first try to actually get this girl before moving on. Because I mean, come on man, you haven't even tried to get this girl? That's certainly a way not to get her.
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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