"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Friend zoned ?

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So met this perfect 10 who chased me, went out together had a long weekend of wild making out...
She comes back the next weekend again hot making out and sleep over.

2 weeks later i take her to a show where my bands playing , sleep over and she gives me the lets be buddy's speech...
Dont want sex with you now etc, me just told her well then i'll get it somewhere else, now go to sleep okay..

I try to play it cool, not contact her, she tries to contact me all the time, even tells me im hot, yeah right.. :rolleyes:
Went out again, she starts telling what guys she think are hot at the venue etc, pffff trouble.

Everyone at the club thinks she's my gf...

She even acts totaly jealous about my ex who was there...

Then me get drunk and act very jealous....:mad: totaly wrong...

Later the evening she cries..said, you confuse me, I dont know what to think, i never know what to expect from you, hmmm i was doing the two steps forward one step back.


Next day the same talk, how do you see me, me didnt answer, just tell her i dont wanna talk right now, she continues and i just ask her , well how do you want to be seen ? answer...well i dont know how to say, maybe a friend or a buddy well thats not the right word etc.etc...confused talk..then
Just wanna be there for you and cook for you and blahblah..

Later she is online and sends me offline message that she has heartache, first she said well not about you...hmmm
Told her to go to sleep .
I didnt answer, few mins later,....she: well yes also about you ! :crazy:

And then about some guy she likes who told her he is married.
Told her i dont wanna know.
proceeds to tell me...I only have bad luck in love....!!
Confusing games my friends....
Dont want to go to friendzone hell..

And then proceeds to tell me she is going to make me something for my birthday in about 3 months !!!
and planning stuff to go to together soon...

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This chick sounds like she has a few screws loose upstairs and is craving some soap opera in her life.

Ignore the words falling out of her mouth. What do her actions and body language tell you? Is it a case of her talking about friendzoning you and such but the non-verbal parts are screaming "take me now!!! fvck me hard!!!"?
 
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drama queen..

she DOESNT know what she WANTS

sounds like she is attracted to you, suggest you hang in there and see what you can get from this chick.

you'l need to be naturally smooth to make head way with this one, she's complicated !
 
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Just found out that she was talking to my sister online that she thought i only wanted her as a "quick snack" and the next day talking online again saying that she's not attracted to me, Sister says this chick doesnt knows what she wants and talks in contradictions...

still she keeps sending me messages....
even if i dont react at all.

Yeah she gave me the lets be friends talk without any bodylanguage as far as i could notice..

Maybe i should Ganji her for a while ?????????

She would be perfect social proof as a friend (she is a 10 ) but me dont wanna hear her talk about what guy she likes or any of that !
 
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next!!!! haha if she denied u she will do it again!! at a worser level
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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cris06 said:
next!!!! haha if she denied u she will do it again!! at a worser level
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Dunno, she speaks to the other girl ,(who tells me ) about being just friends or maybe more. Doesnt know what she wants...

Honestly would Ganji work in my benefit ?
 
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Maybe you should have tried having sex with her after making out. Try it if she refuses nex her.
 
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Prodigy746 said:
Maybe you should have tried having sex with her after making out. Try it if she refuses nex her.
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Well, we did a that whole weekend long and the weekend after...but she did say to her it was just lust. :crazy:
 
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I would cut contact off with her.. if she wants you.. she will chase you. She sounds like she is a drama queen though, I would stay away.

By accepting her behavior, you accept that you just want to be friends with her.
 
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Strange thing is she said to my sis, welll if he was in love with me he would have send me messages everyday and say sweet things etc....:crazy:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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