backbreaker
Master Don Juan
BlahBlah said:Wow...
I always find it extremely amusing whenever I see people on this site complaining about what someone else is doing is "just not right" or proclaim "have some morals for God's sake!"
The same people giving you sh*t for wanting to get with this chick are the same ones, as one of them has even admitted openly in this very thread, that will willingly and consciously have sex with married women, accumulate as many girlfriends/****buddies/etc. as possible, use other women solely for the purpose of obtaining more, and so forth.
But try to get with the 2-week girlfriend of a man who will be overseas indefinitely and suddenly an onslaught of objectors come in here to make you feel guilty for thinking about getting with a female that has shown you several signs of interest.
Perhaps if this were a site filled with, you know, ethical people I could at least understand how people are finding this objectionable.
Perhaps if there were a mandatory draft causing this guy to be forced into the military and sent to Iraq against his will rather than the actual situation: a man getting assigned to Iraq as a part of his previously-known obligation/occupational duty as an employee of the U.S. Military Service. I suppose if this guy cheats on this girl while in Iraq (and believe me, it'll happen if he ends up being stationed there long enough), no one here would raise an objectionable finger.
Perhaps if this guy was actually married to this girl and in Iraq (rather than their highly-committed 2-week-long relationship) I would raise objection... not because of him being in Iraq, but because of... *gasp*... marriage.
Hell, perhaps if this site were not filled with tips of toying with women's emotion's to make them susceptible to further mind games designed to make the "HB's" more likely to f*ck you regardless of how much of a sleeze you may or may not actually be, and other forms of basic manipulation... maybe then I could understand where everyone is coming from with the value-judgements.
Long Rant Short: We all know why we're here, so get off your high horses *******s.
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In regards to the actual question at hand, I'd say she's made it more or less evident that she has, at the very least, some interest in you.
However, as previously mentioned in this thread, this chick probably isn't girlfriend material, so only pursue if you're looking for easy sex. If not, at least always carry that debit card so you can snag a few more $60 dinners before she catches on
I'm going to assume you are reffering to my post.
I don't have to justify myself to anyone, however because alot of you guys are new and doesn't see or understand the underlying issues at hand, I will expand on my somewhat breif post.
First of all, 2 weeks, 2 days, 2 years. It doesn't matter. If it wasn't serious, she wouldn't have mentioned it to him. In other words, just because you "date" someone for 2 weeks, you are assuming that only 2 weeks has been put into their relationship.
My last GF of a year, was pretty much an 18 month relationship, as we didn't officialy date for 6 months.
Now to the GF is away/Marriage issue.
You don't seem to understand the point I am trying to make. It's twofold.
First of all, it's a difference between ****ing a girl that has her BF of 8 months or a husband that is AFC to the max and she is dying to get away, while he is seeing her every day.
he gets the chance to see her everyday, and he isn't living up to his end of hte bargin.
He gets to make love to her, and she isn't satisfied.
He is the equilvlant of a procecuting attorney trying with all he has to make a case, but it just isn't there.
In that circumstance, I have no qualms about having sex with a woman that throws herself at me (note, I never CHASE a married woman or a woman in a relationship, that's pointless, but if she makes her interests known depending on the circumstance, I might play along.. also depending on the circumstances, I might not)
I also wouldn't be mad, not in the least bit, if I got AFC on my LTR and she looked for other options. That's the way the game works, and you can't blame her.
However, that's a hop skip and a jump from being the "comforter" for a girl when her man is out risking his life for your saftey.
most guys, including myself, would never join the army, navy or marines.
The least you can freakin do, and this is just my opinion, is not **** the poor sap's girl while he is away risking his life.
Plus, you aren't really "stealing" his GF, she is just lonley. Who knows if they had a good relationship, it doesn't matter, at least to me. Even if she is throwing herself at me, this is one situtation i wouldn't touch with a 10 foot yard pole (i'll explain)
Above, I said that depending on the circumstances, yes I will have sex with a woman that is taken in one way or another.
This is one i wouldn't. Partly out of respect for people who protect me.
Also because, even if I think it's perfectly moral, HE MIGHT NOT.
That's one street I don't plan to cross. A guy comes home after a 18 month duty, only to find his GF found "someone else" and he makes it his only mission in life to make your life a living hell/kill you/injure you.
It's just not worth it.
I have had sex with 3 married women in my life. Two were seperated, so I don't even count thoose.. I mean, you are seperated.
One took me about 2 months to pull the trigger, even though she was throwing herself at me, I mean, she was married for 5 years, but after talking to her, and actually meeting her husband threw a friend and finding out that he was cheating on her anyway, I could care less.
My oneitis. Was in a relationship for 3 years. About 2 years into that, she calls me, after her BF made her cry for being an *******.. Honestly he did go a tad bit overboard but I don't take sides usually in other people's rifts.
anyway, she wants to see me. She comes over and tells me her parents are out of town and doesn't want to be alone, asks can she spend the night.
Duh!!
I mean, she is literarly throwing herself at me. She knew I wanted her. I knew she wanted to have sex.. you could cut the tension with a knife.
One of the hardest decisions I have ever made, was not to have sex with the woman I was head over heels for that night. Oh did I want to. Words can't describe how bad I wanted to. But I knew I was making the right decision.
First of all, her BF was crazy. not just like 'damn he's a fool' crazy, but like seriously, I'll kill myself if you leave me crazy. If it's one thing I know, is I didn't want to be the reason they broke up. He already didn't like me, for what reason I had no idea, I had just started talking to her after 2 years and I didn't even contact her, she contacted me.
It's not that I was scared of him.. I can defend myself and he's a chump. Never the less, he's a chump that I know carrys around a knife and was now hanging around well known drug dealers..
In that case, I decided because the mental state of her BF, that wasn't a risk for me to take that night.
It's never as cut and dry as "she has a BF= Leave her alone"
Eventually, she left him, and we hooked up dozens of times.. just not that night at that time.
There are circumstances to every relationship. There was a point in time where if my ex GF was cheating on me, there wasn't anything I could do becasuse in all honestly I was doing the same.
But if you would have asked her did she have a BF and she would have said yes, and she would have told we have been together for 3-4 months or whatever, and most guys would have left it at that.
AS far as the DJing Aspect of this entire senerio.. From that experience, it's not so much that she really likes him, it's that she probably Misses her BF.
Throw that in with the fact that you are sleeping with a woman, who is grabbing your package at night and you are already acting that timid... you are already at the point of no return in my book once you are sleeping in the same bed and petting.
